I hope you're finding a little space to breathe as we head into the final stretch of the year. This is the season when everything seems to converge at once—deadlines, holidays, planning for next year, and of course, the annual review cycle. And because I'm taking a few weeks off, I'm replaying some of my favorite past episodes that still feel incredibly relevant, especially right now. Today's episode is one of those.
Before we jump into it, I want to set the stage for why this particular topic—speaking with finesse—matters so much at this time of year. If you're like most professionals, you're probably preparing to give your manager input for your performance review. Maybe you're writing your self‑assessment, maybe you're gathering accomplishments, maybe you're thinking about how to position the work you've done so it reflects the impact you actually had.
And here's the thing: the way you talk about your work is just as important as the work itself.
Not because you need to "spin" anything. Not because you need to inflate your contributions. But because your manager can only advocate for what they understand—and they can only understand what you communicate clearly, confidently, and with the right framing.
That's where finesse comes in.
Finesse is one of those skills that separates people who do good work from people who are recognized for doing good work. It's the difference between saying, "I completed the project," and saying, "I delivered a cross‑functional project that removed a major bottleneck and positioned the team for faster execution next quarter." Both statements are true. One is simply more complete, more contextual, and more reflective of the real value you created.
This is especially important during annual review season because your manager is juggling a lot—multiple team members, multiple projects, multiple priorities. They're trying to remember what happened in February, what happened in June, what happened last week. They're trying to write reviews that are fair, accurate, and aligned with organizational expectations. And they're doing all of that while also preparing for their own review.
So when you give them input that is factual, contextual, and uplifting—not self‑promotional, but accurately framed—you're not just helping yourself. You're helping them do their job better.
And that's exactly what finesse is about.
So as you listen today, I encourage you to think about your own annual review input.
Where could you add more context?
Where could you frame your contributions in a way that better reflects the real impact you...
