Shame vs. Guilt: Margaret Light explains the difference between these two often confused emotions. Guilt is about feeling bad for doing something wrong, while shame is about feeling like a bad person. Guilt can motivate change, but shame can lead to negative self-critical thoughts and harm relationships.
Show Notes
- The difference between shame and guilt (00:01:30)
- Personal experience with shame (00:03:28)
- Challenging negative beliefs (00:06:22)
- Shame and Guilt (00:08:18) Discussion on the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame affects individuals in their day-to-day lives.
- Childhood Experiences of Shame (00:09:23)
- Sharing and Naming Shame (00:12:15)
- Recognizing and Understanding Shame (00:15:34)
- Dealing with Shame and Self-Compassion (00:18:38)
- Leaning into Shame and Seeking External Validation (00:21:31)
- The impact of shame on individuals (00:25:55)
- Creating a shame-filled environment (00:26:16)
- The connection between self-talk and how we treat others (00:27:30)
- Shame and Substance Use (00:31:00)
- The Shame Spiral (00:32:22)
- Window of Tolerance and Coping Strategies (00:34:19)
- Regulating Your System (00:38:45)
- Regulating Others (00:40:55)
- Guilt vs. Shame (00:44:27)
- Recognizing and not internalizing feedback (00:48:14)
- Healthy guilt vs shame in a professional setting (00:51:07)
- The importance of relationships with clients (00:53:57)
- The fascination with understanding human behavior (00:55:00)
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