In this powerful episode, Pete Hunt sits down with Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, author, and pioneer of work around boarding school trauma. They explore why so many high-achieving men with these privileged backgrounds feel emotionally stuck, the hidden impact of early survival strategies, and how intimacy becomes one of life’s greatest challenges. A raw and essential listen for men navigating midlife, relationships, and identity.
Timestamps
00:00 – Introduction
01:29 – Why relationships are so hard for men
04:46 – Boarding school and emotional shutdown
07:52 – The missing emotional training
11:15 – Listening as a lost skill
15:08 – Survivor roles and disconnection
22:04 – The gift of emotional energy
24:06 – The mother wound
32:00 – The child self in adult relationships
36:10 – Institutional life vs. intimacy
43:00 – The missing father figure
47:02 – Mentorship and male role models
50:00 – The impact of porn and overstimulation
53:40 – Power through vulnerability
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