In the midst of an uncomfortable situation, where a part of us is afraid to face the truth, our mind quickly tries to stir us into a space of safety through self-deception or blaming others.
With self-awareness, it is possible to detect what is going on - either by being mindful of one's thoughts or by engaging the body's wisdom as a gaging tool. Notice how the body reacts meeting someone whom we feel uncomfortable with. Compare that with the physical response bumping into our best friend. There is always a physical reaction to thoughts and emotions. Our body doesn't lie and can be of great help if we take the time to become attuned to it and care to listen to what it has to say. It can be a great ally to question whether what the mind wants us to believe is right for us at that moment.
Often leaders are taking action based on what they should be doing, rather than what their inner self calls them to do. Playing the political game, fulfilling other people's expectations, competition, or achieving a particular social status is often more important than what rings true deep within themselves.
Being honest with oneself keeps one out of that loop. Being aligned physically, mentally and spiritually one brings forth integrity and authenticity into leadership.
Beyond our body we are wrapped in an energetic field, others often pick up quickly when we are not in alignment with our thoughts, emotions, and body. They may not be able to put a finger down on what they sense, but their body picks up on the incongruence in that field, making the person feel uneasy and at worst not trusting. Often our body language gives us away too.
Ross shares an example of a client who took up a managing position as this was the right thing to do from a career perspective. He struggled in that new job, and after several conversations with Ross, he finally admitted to himself that managing people wasn't what he wanted to do. He returned to his old job and was completely happy.
Recognizing what is one's deepest truth and then having the courage to express that is what will keep one connected to the inner self and allow for an authentic life be it at work or at home.
