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Being the man women want does not start with thinking about what women want! It starts with us developing ourselves as men. Too many men are living their lives based on what they "think" women want. This leads to confusion and pain from painful breakups and divorces. Men must stop focusing on what women want and must start focusing on three key things to develop as men. As they do this, they will automatically become more attractive to the right kind of woman.
Quit Being What They Want
- As men, we must quit adapting to every whim we think women want or we will never be the men we were designed to be
- We'll never figure out who we are if we are always playing a part
- Wearing masks keeps us from developing intimacy in our relationships
- When a man is constantly changing based on a girl, he is not taking the time to figure himself out
- Real serving is done from strength and security
- Manipulative serving is done from insecurity and control
- Men must go on the journey of figuring themselves out or they won't know how to authentically connect with a woman
Start Building Our Security
- Insecurity is one of the biggest problems among men today
- Men are controlled by women
- Men change for women based on their own insecurity
- We must get to the foundation of who we are as men
- Our security is built on our foundation as men: our character, our worldview, our purpose
- Men often hide from this kind of deep thinking through the distractions of life
- Men who don't develop security, never grow up and mature as men
Drive Our Own Life
- We must decide as men to drive our own life by taking responsibility for our actions and how we live
- Quality Women want a man who knows who he is and what he is doing with his life
- Men who are hyper-control freaks often exhibit signs of extreme insecurity and control is how they try to keep order in their world
- A man who is driving his life knows that he can control himself so he doesn't waste his energy on things he can't control
- Responsible men can live authentically because they are constantly developing themselves and growing themselves
- Driving our own life as men are contingent on having a direction to go
- Men who drive their life don't get caught up in the hedonistic trap so many men fall into
