IN THIS EPISODE:This episode is the first of a series of foundational pieces we will provide on relational science and building secure relationships.
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It has a longer than usual monologue at the beginning but then rolls into the normal 3-way conversation. Hey we are just figuring this stuff out. 🙂
Main concept – no matter what your history everyone has the capacity to grow secure relationships and improve their sense of security in themselves
There are three specific structures that affect our sense of well-being
The prefrontal cortex – functions described in detail
The hippocampus
The amygdala
Suggestion: Two-sided walk if your amygdala is activated.Walk as far as you want and feel angry and self-righteous. When you get ready and turn around, though, you have to spend the walk back considering the opposing perspective. This engages the PFC.
Brain plasticity – this is awesome news!
Our brain structure is formed by patterns in behavior, but those patterns can be changed.
Knowing that your threat system is activated and seeing our own warning signs allows us to work against responding automatically. It gives us choice, responsiveness.
Practicing can physically alter the structure of our brain in a way that permanently helps us.
Stay tunes for more episodes on attachment and how to build secure relationships
Additional resources for this episode:John Gottman
http://amzn.to/2bPC8dI (The Seven Principals to Making a Marriage Work… )this is one of the basic foundational works from a researcher who is scientifically explaining misery and happiness. for everyone.
http://amzn.to/2bPDZPv (How to Make Love Last) – Gottman. A more recent work by this research team.
This is another Gottman work, but this time on parenting. http://amzn.to/2bPDBR7 (Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child…) for parents.
These and other resources have been collected for you https://www.therapistuncensored.com/resources/ (on our Resources page!)
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