At the beginning of our stay at a friend’s house in Oregon six weeks ago, my eight-year-old daughter Carys had biked a flat mile on a mountain biking trail; when we got to a very slight incline she made it 20 feet further and then it all fell apart. She whined; she cried; she refused to go on. Later in the day, after we had both calmed down, we discussed the idea of Doing Hard Things, and we ultimately both agreed that we wanted to improve our mountain biking skills this summer.
She has done both a beginner and an intermediate level bike camp since then and her skills have dramatically improved! We did the Trail of Refusal the weekend after the beginner camp and she made it all the way around the loop, and the only complaining was because our riding companions weren’t going fast enough! (I’ve also been riding a lot - selling my old bike for a good price enabled the purchase of a new, much lighter one and I’m now significantly faster than I was. I may need a skills camp myself next time we’re in town…)
Professor Angela Duckworth discusses Doing Hard Things in her work on grittiness. A few days ago Listener Jamie, who helped me to prepare to talk with Alfie Kohn several years ago and who co-interviewed Dr. Mona Delahooke with me, sent me an article from The Atlantic that had just popped up in her newsfeed called The Case Against Grit and said “You said the same thing ages ago!”.
I was pretty sure I did say that, but I decided to check it out. Looking back at something I wrote four years ago has the potential to be pretty scary - my ideas have evolved a lot since then. Does this episode still ring true? Did I miss major issues? I discuss these ideas in a preview to this re-released episode.
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03:29 How Grit is intimately connected to White supremacy
04:31 Characteristics of White supremacy in the concept of Grit
05:45 Teaching grittiness seems to be about passing along cultural ideas that we might not agree with
07:55 Raising children with a broad skill set and a self-identified passion are those who have encouraged rather than pushed their children in many interests rather than just one.
11:03 Invitation to join the Supporting Your Child’s Learning Membership and You Are Your Child’s Best Teacher workshop
12:20 Understanding what is Grit scale
15:30 Is grit about perseverance and passion
17:15 What it takes to be Grit
22:01 Using effort to overcome potential deficiencies in talent
25:27 Issues in measuring the Grit scale to students in schools
27:09 How could we give students from poor backgrounds a better advantage in school
28:24 Children experience at least two responses to stress
30:01 Understanding the issues of grit in famously successful people
32:21 The 7 virtues of grit
33:42 One of the major purposes of school is to pass on society’s culture and values to the next generation
35:09 The 4 key beliefs...
