In this short episode, I'm going to teach you a real, legit, bona fide magic trick.
And unlike most magic tricks which rely on sleight of hand to convince you of something that has happened when it really hasn't, this one actually works. It helps you to see that things are not as bad as they seem, and that you can cope, even when things feel incredibly difficult and that you're failing as a parent.
I asked four listeners to help me explain the concept to you, and how it has helped them, and one even went above and beyond and did a live demo for us!
Then I walk you through it step by step, so you can use it when you need it later.
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😟 Be triggered less often by your child’s behavior,
😐 React from a place of compassion and empathy instead of anger and frustration,
😊 Respond to your child from a place that’s aligned with your values rather than reacting in the heat of the moment,
the Taming Your Triggers workshop will help you make this shift.
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Jump to highlights
00:43 Introducing today’s topic
02:04 Words can influence our perceptions.
04:02 Anne shares three instances where questioning negative thoughts helped in avoiding unnecessary worry and misunderstandings.
09:46 Elizabeth, a Parenting Membership member for two years, highlights how Jen's advice, using the phrase "I am having the thought that...," helped her cope with a challenging parenting situation.
11:54 Melissa used self-compassion and questioning negative thoughts to find self-compassion and regain confidence.
13:11 Melissa highlights the core aspect of the "magic trick" by framing these thoughts as "I'm thinking" rather than absolute truths.
14:46 Jen calls listeners to try a mindful exercise where "I'm thinking that..." is added before self-judgments or judgments about others.
20:20 Adding "I'm thinking that..." before judgments can foster understanding, compassion, and better relationships, as demonstrated by Jen’s dishwasher experience.
25:07 Nicole shares how her meditation practice led her to explore the concept of not believing everything she thinks
27:47 Recognizing our perspective isn't the only truth can help us shift from self-centered thinking when hurt by someone.
28:36 The concept of not believing everything we think promotes a balanced perspective on our life stories.
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Reference
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