Looking above episode 16 - Offendability
Special Guest - Darci Wilson
Let's be real, sometimes our friends hurt us. In this episode, Karen talks with Darci about one of the most tragic killers of friendship - offense. When we choose offense over grace, friendships weaken and frequently die. Fighting offense requires intentionality in our thoughts and actions.
Questions for discussion:
- What's the silliest (most trivial) offense you can think of?
- Are you someone who is easily offended or someone who is hard to offend? Why do you think that is?
- Which reason for offense are you most prone to: self-focus, insecurity, feeling left out, misunderstandings, disagreement?
- Can you think of a time you offended someone unintentionally?
- 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us to take every thought captive. Is this something you do? What does that look like for you?
- How can thinking on the truth and assuming the best change our response to potentially offending situations?
- 1 Peter 4:8 It is most loving to be honest with our friends. Why is it important that we talk honestly about offenses rather than bottling them?
- Colossians 3:13 Do you often think about the forgiveness and grace God extends to you? How can that awareness change the way you offer forgiveness?
- Do you agree with Darci's assertion that it's good for friends to fight?
- Is there a friendship you need to repair? Can our group pray for you as you take steps to repair the offense?
The Takeaway: The Enemy wants to tear down our relationships. We have to fight offense by controlling our thoughts, showing love in honesty, and choosing to forgive.
To-Do This Week: Have the hard conversation you've been avoiding. If you've offended someone, work to bring reconciliation. If you've been offended, lovingly tell your friend and then extend grace.
