Is your "all-or-nothing" mindset actually keeping you stuck in a cycle of shame and addiction? For many, the rigid structures of religion and "black-and-white" thinking provide a false sense of control that eventually shatters when faced with the messy reality of human experience.
In this episode, Patrick Custer, host of the award-winning Rooted Recovery Stories podcast, joins Charles Turtz to discuss the grueling process of untangling faith from fear. Patrick shares his transformation from a "perfect" kid in a charismatic Pentecostal bubble to finding a life-saving, authentic spirituality during his journey through drug and alcohol recovery. You’ll learn how to dismantle the illusion of control, embrace the "gray areas" of life, and finally give yourself permission to shine.
Patrick discusses growing up in a high-control religious environment where "test and evaluate" was considered an evil influence. Healing requires taking influential figures off pedestals and reclaiming a personal relationship with a higher power that isn't rooted in fear or rigid rules.
Instead of the "complete cut" approach that often leads to failure, Patrick explains how identifying milestones and celebrating small wins can create sustainable change. This "gray area" approach to health and habits focuses on reducing damage rather than demanding immediate perfection.
For Patrick, coming out as gay and getting sober were inextricably linked. He reveals how "shelving" old, non-functional beliefs allowed him to rewrite his life and find a community where he no longer had to dim his light to fit into someone else's mold.
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