We see ourselves in a distorted mirrors reflect what we would like to see. But the Lord will restore us back to a normal condition, above and beyond what is normal, so that we can be that City on the Hill.
Focusing on relationships, specifically parenting, Are our family interactions similar to the Red light Green light game? Do we act out the roles from servant to commander and chief? Do we go back and forth in power struggles within our marriages and/or lives? "How do I get them to do what I want?" This is not a give and take relationship.
Ephs. 5:18, be filled with the Spirit; Ephs. 5:21 Submitting to one and other out of reverence for Christ. Being "submissive is not seen as a strong quality, but being submissive is not being a doormat. Paul talks about men loving their wives as Christ loves the church. Ephs. 5:1 Paul has instructions for children to obey they parents "Listen Attentively", and respond accordingly. Luke 2, Jesus, at age 12 demonstrated how to be under subjection to his parents. Being obedient "in the Lord" is an act of worship.
But the Lord is looking for much more than just obedience. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but develop a relationship of mutual submission. Stop and Go attitude leads to anger. Bring them up in discipline under the instruction of he Lord, yielding to their needs. Being submissive has always been counter cultural, but that is exactly what God is calling to be.
