In basketball, "if you want the ball move away from it."
In the Chinese Finger Trap (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_finger_trap), less effort is better results.
Same with parenting.
If you want to nourish win-win relationships with your children, then spend quality time by yourself.
Heal your own inner child. Become trigger-free.
But is Joel even a parent? What does he know?
Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
https://www.drdansiegel.com/books/parentingfromtheinsideout/
Internal Family Systems Therapy
https://ifs-institute.com/
Non-Violent Communication
https://www.cnvc.org/
Ep. 31 - How to Heal with Meditation
https://fireside.fm/s/j0mRwqcB+OW148aA3
Nathaniel Branden Sentence Completion Exercises
http://www.nathanielbranden.com/sentence-completion-i
