Did you ever look back at your childhood and wonder how those early experiences and expectations in life etched themselves into the very fabric of your being?
Join me on this reflective journey through the Enneagram, where we explore our childhood experiences' profound impact on shaping our personalities. This episode peels back the layers of formative messages, unmet needs, and how our younger selves perceive the world and carve out our Enneagram types. This episode is also a gentle reminder that these perceptions are not indictments of our caregivers but rather a testament to the uniqueness of our individual experiences.
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Understanding how our childhoods are all different.
Enneagram types and their childhood messages.
“Our personality is largely shaped by what we perceive to be true as little people. Our childhood experiences are what shape a lot of our personalities. Our personality also shapes how we perceive our childhood.”
“Ones, as kids, were required to take on too much responsibility too soon. They received this message at some point that it was not okay to make mistakes and it was not okay to do anything bad or wrong, immoral, corrupt.”
“Twos, as kids, got the message at some point that their needs didn't really matter or weren't as important as the needs of those around them.”
“I think as Threes it just becomes ingrained in your head that you are loved and valued for what you do, not who you are.”
“Fours, as children, experience actual or perceived loss of love sometime earlier on in life as kids and they blame themselves for it.”
“For whatever reason, the caregivers of Fives were not responsive to their needs, so the five felt neglected.”
“Sixes at some point when they were kids they had problems with authority or people, maybe caretakers, maybe it was their parents, but at some point, they felt unprotected by the person who was meant to protect them.”
“Little Sevens at the time do what they do best and the experience of safety for them comes in the form of positivity.”
“For Eights, growing up home could have been a place that wasn't safe. It could have been a battleground where there was conflict or constant combat was necessary to survive.”
“Nines, at some point in their lives, heard or perceived this message of it's not okay to assert yourself.”
“We all are walking around as just adult versions of hurt or traumatized or whatever fill-in-the-blank big children that need to be more compassionate for ourselves and through the work.”
(00:26) Understanding that each of us has different childhood experiences.
(07:27) Enneagram 1: It's not okay to make mistakes.
(09:37) Enneagram 2: Your needs did not matter.
(10:58) Enneagram 3: You are loved and valued for what you do, not for who you are.
(13:22) Enneagram 4: You blame yourself for losing actual or perceived love.
(14:41) Enneagram 5: You felt neglected in your childhood by your caregivers.
(17:44) Enneagram 6: You felt unprotected by the people who should be protecting them.
(19:41) Enneagram 7: It's not okay to depend on others for anything.
(22:50) Enneagram 8: You cannot be vulnerable - the strong survives and the weak are eaten alive.
(25:03) Enneagram 9: It's not okay to assert yourself.
Truity Personality Website:
https://www.truity.com/blog/uncovering-your-common-childhood-wounds-enneagram-type
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