Dementia has been described as the long goodbye and in this podcast in our Dementia Stories feature we hear Dot Yorkston talking about saying goodbye to her husband James. She tells us about the last years when they lived with his Vascular Dementia describing his first symptoms in particular his mood and temper issues and how it was an eye specialist who advised them to go for further tests. The original diagnosis from the Western General was a surprise but despite increasing worries about his memory and lack of appetite support and advice was slow. Unfortunately these also did not prove very helpful sometimes contact and sessions resulted in upsetting James more. A social work referral led to the Living Memory Association becoming involved and Miles starting visiting James at home. James and Miles established a good relationship which allowed Dot to have some time for herself. Some days were better than others and they did have days when they enjoyed reminiscing but taking on the household management caring for James and the worry of his moods meant Dot herself was shattered . With her family's support Dot booked a short trip to Florida. Despite her anxieties about leaving James she went to places that they had visited together and when she returned home they had a lovely time together for two weeks as James seemed more settled. Although his mood did change again suddenly Dot is positive that she benefitted from the holiday and was able to relax while she was away
