Today's episode is all about your trauma related questions! The first listener asks how much of our trauma do we share with our children once they become adults?
I tackle this question in two parts, firstly how to approach discussing trauma with children when they're young, and then with our children once they're adults. I discuss how I approached telling my children I would be checking into to rehab, and how I navigated not wanting to lie while also not burdening them with details they wouldn't be able to process. I encourage the listener to talk to their kids about their trauma how they'd talk to their kids about any difficult subject: with clarity and awareness of which details are unnecessarily scary. The second listener question is about how to deal with the voice that tells them they will fail after every ounce of success they achieve. I contextualize this fear of "the other shoe dropping" as very normal for folks who have CPTSD. Many of us don't want to feel hope because we've had it crushed before, and so it is a natural defence mechanism. I detail the science behind why we think this way, and reference a study linked below. I offer some reassurance to help them reframe this feeling, to feel this feeling and to push past it anyway.
You can email in your written question, or send in a recorded MP3 voicenote to be inserted into the podcast via hello@advancedbitches.com
LINKS
The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto
Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions
Homeostasis, Stress, Trauma, and Adaptation A Neurodevelopmental View of Childhood Trauma by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD Ronnie Pollard, MD, PhD - https://scholar.google.co.za/scholar?q=perry+and+pollard+1998&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart
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The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3
The Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up
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