In today's episode I answer two listener questions. The first one is about how to engage with bigoted family. My short answer is that…you don't! I explain that engaging is a losing game, because they remain unconvinced and you remain frustrated. I share that in moments like these I like to reach into my toolbox of strategies and coping mechanisms, and offer some to them. I explain that if you have to be in the same space as a bigot, use scripts which are predetermined answers to questions and situations you will find uncomfortable as may help you feel prepared and safe. I also recommend "C Jade Run", an acronym that outlines what co-dependents should avoid doing: Convincing people, Justifying themselves, Arguing, Defending and Explaining. Finally, I encourage the listener to leave spaces that make them uneasy; either physically by leaving a room, or mentally checking out by going on their phone. The second question is from a listener who asks why they can't get better. I discuss this in detail, assuring them that the work isn't staying on the path but about getting back on it when we veer off. I elaborate on what this looks like through a personal anecdote about how my therapist guided me through this same feeling
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