Skylar Calico returns to the Hilarious Hypnotist Podcast for her third session, discussing her ongoing struggles with her mother's critical voice and the impact of her upbringing. Skylar shares how her mother's constant negativity has led to burnout, anxiety, and a fear of being punished. She recounts her mother's controlling behavior, including taking away her possessions and punishing her for being depressed. Skylar expresses a desire to break free from her mother's influence and adopt a more balanced, nurturing approach to life, inspired by positive role models like her adoptive mother and Bambi Wild. The session aims to help Skylar reframe her mother's voice and cultivate a more positive self-image.
KEY POINTS:
Skylar Calico's Return and Initial Updates
- Traci Kanaan introduces Skylar Calico, a fan favorite, and mentions this is Skylar's third session.
- Skylar Calico jokes about her "time blindness" and mentions her social media and financial success.
- Skylar discusses her burnout and constant internal voice of her mother telling her she will fail.
- Skylar shares an example of her mother's negative influence when Skylar was excited about buying a car.
Impact of Skylar's Mother's Criticism
- Skylar describes her mother's criticism about her appearance, including her lips and boobs.
- Skylar talks about her mother's insecurity and anxiety, which she has inherited.
- Skylar mentions her mother's habit of projecting her own insecurities onto Skylar.
- Skylar shares a memory of her mother not being able to tell her she loves her, which still haunts her.
No Contact and Reconciliation with Mother
- Skylar explains her decision to go no contact with her mother in December and the reasons behind it.
- Skylar mentions her mother's realization that she needed to work on herself to avoid messing up her younger brother.
- Skylar talks about her mother's history of favoritism towards her adopted sisters and the fear of replacement.
- Skylar shares a traumatic memory of her mother giving away her dog on her 14th birthday.
Generational Trauma and Parental Reactions
- Skylar discusses the generational trauma from her grandmother and how it influenced her mother's parenting.
- Skylar recounts a traumatic experience of being hospitalized and her parents stripping her room of everything.
- Skylar talks about her mother's attempts to commit her and the legal action against her.
- Skylar mentions her brother's similar behaviors and diagnoses, and how her parents have learned from their mistakes.
Social Interactions and PTSD Triggers
- Skylar describes her mother's controlling behavior during movie outings and the anxiety it caused.
- Skylar shares how her mother's anxiety and reactions have shaped her social interactions and expectations.
- Skylar talks about her fear of being punished and the impact of her mother's reactions on her relationships.
- Skylar mentions her mother's tendency to weaponize everything and the silent treatment as a reaction to being asked to take a break from an argument.
Desire for Positive Interactions
- Skylar expresses her desire to not hear her mother's voice in her head during interactions with others.
- Skylar wants to be able to communicate without fear of her mother's reactions.
- Skylar talks about her tendency to jump to aggression and defensiveness and her desire to change that.
- Skylar mentions her admiration for people who are sweet and nurturing, like her adoptive mother and Bambi Wild.
Role Models and Personal Traits
- Skylar describes Bambi Wild as a sweet, humble, and down-to-earth person who has a capacity for violence but doesn't use it.
- Skylar talks about her admiration for Bambi's career and her nurturing nature.
- Skylar mentions Raven as another role model but notes that Raven has a quicker switch to aggression than Skylar.
- Skylar expresses her desire to be like Bambi, sweet and nurturing, but also capable of defending herself if necessary.
Adaptability and Personal Symbolism
- Skylar explains the significance of raccoons and foxes as symbols of adaptability and resilience.
- Skylar shares her love for animals and how these creatures embody qualities she values in herself.
- Skylar talks about the adaptability of raccoons and foxes and how they can survive anywhere.
- Skylar mentions her raccoon tattoo as a reminder of her ability to adapt and make do with what she has.
Breaking Up Patterns and Moving Forward
- Traci Kanaan explains the goal of the session: breaking up patterns in Skylar's head and moving towards a desired life.
- Traci introduces the concept of the "two space" and how it can help Skylar stay centered and grounded.
- Skylar describes her admiration for people who are in the "two space" and how it helps them navigate interactions.
- Skylar talks about her desire to be in the "two space" and not be hyper-vigilant or defensive in her interactions.
Creating a Positive Self-Image
- Traci and Skylar discuss the importance of creating a positive self-image and reinforcing desired traits.
- Skylar talks about her tendency to reinforce negative traits and the need to focus on positive ones.
- Skylar expresses her desire to be sweet, nurturing, and capable of diplomatic conversations.
- Skylar mentions her admiration for people who are kind and humble, and her goal to embody those traits.
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