#53: Wild Pregnancy & Free Birth - with Bec Oakaiah
In this raw and activating episode, I sit down with traditional birthkeeper Bec Oakaiah, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper, for a powerful conversation on wild pregnancy, freebirth and reclaiming physiological birth in a culture that has almost forgotten what women's bodies are capable of.
This is a conversation for any woman who is dreaming of pregnancy, preparing for conception, already pregnant, or simply feels a quiet pull that birth could be more wild, more holy, and more hers than the stories she's been given.
Together we dive into:
The true meaning of wild pregnancy and freebirth beyond the online controversy
How our own birth imprints become the first lens through which we experience life
How hospital environments, timelines and authority can interrupt physiology
The rising caesarean rates and why Bec believes this has "fuck all to do with physiology"
Using the menstrual cycle as monthly ritual to clear fear and prepare for future rites of passage
Why unpacking our birth stories, motherline and cultural conditioning matters long before labour
How unprocessed fears in pregnancy often surface in labour if they're never fully met
The importance of environment, food, rest, and who you invite into your birth space
Authority dynamics in medical systems, and why so many women feel they "had no choice"
Why no professional – midwife, doctor, doula or birthkeeper – is more of an expert on your baby than you are
Walking with death as a companion through pregnancy, and birth as death-rebirth for mother, placenta and identity
Postpartum as the true gestation of the Mother, and why postpartum planning is just as vital as "birth plans"
How long healing can really take, and why sensitivity in the body is a feature, not a flaw
Unpacking our relationship with authority as essential preparation if we choose to interact with the system at all
Why Bec believes physiological birth is on the cusp of extinction – and what it means to be part of its reclamation
Birth, miscarriage, abortion, postpartum and menstruation as one continuous feminine continuum of death–rebirth
About Our Guest, Bec, The Jurassic Coast Birthkeeper
Bec is a traditional birthkeeper rooted on England's Jurassic Coast. She midwifes the soul through holistic birth, death and all the thresholds in between. Her work centres on the liberation and protection of physiological birth, the remembrance of ancient and indigenous birth wisdom, and guiding women back to unshakeable trust in their own bodies, babies and inner authority.
She walks with women – especially first-time mothers – who are called to wild pregnancy, freebirth and home birth, and also tends to the wider field of birthworkers through education, mentorship and community devoted to the reclamation of birth as a rite of passage.
Connect with Bec
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/becoakaiah/
Mother + holistic birthkeeper. remembering the ancient ways of sacred birth.
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This episode is an offering to every woman who has ever bled, will one day birth, has birthed, has lost, or is simply remembering that her body was always designed for the wild, intelligent mystery of life moving through her.
