Codependency is a trauma response. It's a coping skill; a survivor tries to micro-manage or control people to feel better or safe. Let's ensure we aren't talking about toxic dependency, which is overly reliant on others; this subtle difference makes a huge difference when understanding the resulting behaviors.
Melody Beattie - Codependent No More
https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/
Sarah on Almost Awakened
https://almostawakened.org/2023/07/clinical-perspective-on-spirituality-psychedelics-aa-158/