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In this episode of the Unperfected Podcast, Brooke welcomes Dr. Onalee Makam. Dr. Onalee is an expert at helping people leave narcissistic relationships and attract their soulmate. She is a Doctor of Chiropractic and a Certified Health and Nutrition Coach. She started her online business in 2018 and has helped thousands of people navigate a divorce or other breakup so they can finally be free. Her zone of genius is helping you get rid of the unhealthy relationship patterns that are blocking you from the love of your life.

Dr. Onalee discusses the challenges and recovery from narcissistic relationships. She shares her personal journey and professional insights on helping people come home to themselves after experiencing narcissistic abuse. She discusses the common signs of being in such a relationship, the core wounds that attract individuals to narcissists, and the importance of self-love and spiritual connection in the healing process.

Tune in as Dr. Onalee shares her valuable insights and practical advice for anyone looking to reclaim their power and emotional well-being!

[00:00 - 03:06] Recovery from Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Onalee

• Brooke welcomes Dr. Ona Lee, who is dedicated to helping people recover from narcissistic relationships through a four-step program.
• Dr. Onalee shares her personal journey and professional focus, which stem from her own experiences and extensive background in therapy and coaching. 
• Approaching relationship toxicity as an addiction and introduces the framework that has led to her own recovery and now aids others in healing.

[03:07 - 11:07] Healing and Empowerment

• The signs of a narcissistic relationship and explains how such relationships can feel addictive. The patterns of narcissistic behavior rather than a formal diagnosis and highlights how the feelings of walking on eggshells, being gaslit, and feeling disempowered can indicate an unhealthy relationship.
• Recognizing and healing a 'core wound' of not feeling chosen.
• The dynamic between narcissists and wounded empaths, focusing on how empaths often feel unworthy and overly empathetic, leading to people-pleasing behaviors that allow continued abuse.

[11:08 - 25:27] Choosing Yourself Over Unhealthy Relationships

• Four-step process to heal from core wounds, particularly for those who feel unseen, unheard, or repeatedly betrayed.
• Choosing oneself, recognizing and walking away from unhealthy relationships, and trusting one's own intuition rather than the narratives imposed by narcissistic individuals.
• The complexities faced by women in these relationships, including the impact of societal gaslighting and the challenge of discerning one's reality.
• The role of spiritual connection and self-trust in the healing journey, advocating for a return to one's true self and a higher power as pivotal steps towards recovery.

[25:28 - 33:42] Embracing Self-Love and Healthy Habits

• Self-compassion and the importance of self-validation over seeking external approval.
• Addressing core wounds related to needing validation from others and advocates for choosing oneself.
• Understanding and transforming unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as addiction, through emotional maturity and self-love.
• The transformative power of self-care post-toxic relationships.
• Acknowledging one's past actions without shame, and evolving towards healthier life choices.

[33:43 - 45:02] The Power of Crashes and Relapses

• The profound impact of recognizing and overcoming various addictions, from alcohol to unhealthy relationships. 
• Listening to internal signals and how their conscious choices towards self-respect and self-love have led them to a more fulfilled life.
• Hitting rock bottom and how these moments provided the clarity needed to make lasting changes.
• The concept of redirecting addictive behaviors into healthier, more sustainable habits and the power of extracting positive lessons from past struggles.
• Advocating for a shift in perspective to recognize every hardship as a stepping stone towards one's true purpose.

[45:03 – 48:37] Final Thoughts and Resources

• How meditations aid in recovery and empowerment.
• The four steps crucial for recovery and mentions advanced programs like Woman in Power or Man in Power to help individuals regain their confidence and self-worth.
• Dr. Onalee values ongoing conversations with listeners and appreciates the opportunity to connect with her community.

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Tweetable Quotes: 

"Whether you're right or not, narcissistic or not narcissistic, doesn't matter. It's you and your relationship to them." – Dr. Onalee Makam

"If you don't feel like it's healthy, and it negatively impacts your mental state. Physical, emotional, spiritual wellbeing. that is enough to trust yourself." – Dr. Onalee Makam

"When you're empowered empathy and it takes a lot of courage to do that and for a lot of people, it's very hard for them." – Dr. Onalee Makam

"To walk away or distance themselves when something doesn't feel right out of fear of what the other person will say or judge them or be mean to them, an adverse reaction, attack them, whatever it is. But that's the key to releasing these kinds of relationships. " – Dr. Onalee Makam

*This is not medical advice. Please consult with a professional before making any changes

You can connect with Dr. Onalee Makam through her:

Instagram: @dr.onalee

Podcast: Coming hOMe®️

Website: doctoronalee.com/links 

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