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This a Podcast for The Romantic Goddess wanting to learn to date the high-value way in order to magnetise her divine masculine man and manifest the relationship of her dreams. 

💕 If you want to awaken the confident, intuitive and creative Goddess within you.
💕 If you want to awaken your inner feminine strength and wisdom.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who doesn't chase.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who attracts.
💕 Who magnetises, who creates her own life.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who attracts her equal.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who doesn't settle
💕 If you want to attract a high-value healthy masculine man who you can respect and admire, who will love you, adore you and cherish you, respect and support you, lift you up and make you feel safe in your feminine energy.
💕 A man that knows your worth and treats you like the Queen you are.
💕 The king that you deserve

Then this podcast is for you. 

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I already gave you a little clue last week that we would be talking about boundaries in this episode because it's a very important part of being your goddess self; it's a very important part of being feminine energy, and it's a very important part of being high value that you must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must, must have strong boundaries.

Having boundaries in your relationships is gonna have several purposes, and one of them it's gonna help you to define who you are as a person and who he is as another person so that you don't lose yourself in the relationship and you don't lose who you are in the process.

Having boundaries also it's going to help you to see if he's the one, and to see if he's a good person, if he loves you. If he respects you, if he respects who you are, if he respects your time

You are giving him the chance to show you that you matter to him by him respecting your boundaries.

The first time I read about boundaries, it was in the rules books

And then, when I was trying to do the rules and follow the rules books, I found that  boundaries were the most difficult thing in the world because boundaries were not taught to me as a child like normal people are so, if you are like me, you never had boundaries before because you know what they are because they were never modelled to you and nobody taught you,  this is a great time to learn about boundaries and to put them into practice while you are dating before you meet the guy.

And if you already have met someone, then it's really good for you that you start to implement boundaries before you commit to the guy.

And if you already have made a commitment to the guy, then it's really good that you begin to put boundaries in place to see if he's the one.

And if you already know that your guy is the one, then you wouldn't  be listening to this podcast, so I will not continue down that road. Lol.

So to see how boundaries are gonna help you, I'm just gonna give you a few tips on how you can begin today to practice boundaries.

So if you are single and dating, you probably are on dating apps. Dating apps are the perfect place for you to practice boundaries for the first time.

If this is not your first time, it is gonna be a good opportunity to practice boundaries as a high value woman.

So let's imagine that you are on Tinder.

If you're following my advice, you already have upgraded to Tinder Gold, and you are matching with guys who really liked you and they have messaged you first and when replaying, you are not going to reply in nanoseconds; you are not gonna straight away drop everything and reply to the guy. But instead, you're gonna take your time.

I normally advise my clients to like wait for the next day.

So let's say it's Monday. So you're gonna wait to reply on Tuesday.

The second way that you can implement boundaries is if he sends you a text message that has four or five words; for example, he says, hey, how are you? Then you're not gonna reply to him: Oh hi.I am great.I'm so glad that I hear from you.

You're not gonna tell him your life, you're gonna have boundaries, and you're gonna reply exactly what he says.

Another boundary is you're not gonna text with the guy forever. There is no need. A masculine guy who sees what he likes. He's not gonna, he doesn't want a pen pal, he wants to date you. He wants to meet you. He wants to see the girl.

So with that information, I know that if the guy just texts you forever, it means that he's not that into you.

So there's no point in wasting your time texting and texting guys that are not asking you out.

Give him a handful of messages and allow him to ask you out.

But if in a handful of messages, he's not asking you out, then you're gonna put a boundary in place, and you are going to start ignoring his messages.

When you start ignoring messages, he's gonna be like:

 hey, how are you?

Are you there?

Happy Monday.

Happy Wednesday.

Happy  weekend.

What are you doing this weekend?

You're going to ignore, ignore, ignore, ignore all the messages and wait till he asks you out, and he's gonna either ask you out or continue texting you rubbish.

If he gets too annoying, you can just unmatch him or delete him.

And if he asks you out, then you reply to his date request.

But do not text the guy for ages. There is no need. 

A guy that likes what he sees he's going to ask you out straight away.

He's gonna ask you out on the second, on the third message.

So he's not going to be texting forever.

And remember in the first episode we said, what do you want? Do you want a partner?

You don't want a pen pal.

So you must be in integrity with yourself and stick to what you want.

That's why that was the first episode, it is so important that you know what you want, you want a partner, you don't want a pen pal.

Another way to put boundaries in place it's, let's say, that you have exchange numbers. He's asked you out, you exchange numbers, and he's gonna call you, right?

So don't be on the phone with him all night. Don't be like in the movies.

In the movies, the girl is like: 

"It's so romantic that we talked for hours."

"We told each other our lives."

No, you're not gonna do that. You're not gonna tell him your life. You're not going to be on the phone for hours.

You're going to give him 10 minutes, and in 10 minutes, you're gonna say:

"Well, it was great talking to you, but I have to get going because, you know, I am busy doing this and tha"

You got a life.

You're a woman of high value. 

You can be all day to be talking to him

Especially if he's not asking you out.

Imagine if you talk to him all night, and he's not even thinking about asking you out on a date.

You just wasted a whole evening on a guy who is not into you. He just wants a little bit of entertainment; he is just lonely and wants to chat with someone on the phone.

You are not the Samaritans. You're not here to chat with bored guys.

So we're not going to be doing that.

You're gonna give him 10 minutes, and you're going to end the phone call.

And what's gonna happen is that when you end the phone call,  that will remind him of the purpose of his call and he will be like:

"Oh, wait, how about, you know, a drink?"

It will actually remind him what the reason why he called you in the first place.

Another way that you're gonna put on boundaries is the same way that you're not gonna spend hours on the phone with him, you're not gonna be on a date with this guy all night.

So in your very, very, very, very first date, if he asked you out on a coffee, you're gonna go out, drink your coffee and go home.

You're gonna end the date when you end the coffee.

If he asks you out for a drink, you drink your drink and go home.

If he asks you out on a dinner date, then you're gonna go have your dinner, skip desert end the date and go home.

You're not going to be with him all night.

The rules for dating say don't spend with him longer than two hours on the first date, but sometimes you don't even need to spend two hours because if he just bought you a coffee, what the hell are you doing in two hours with a guy sitting there with a cold coffee? Or with an empty cup?

It's just ridiculous that you stay with him for two hours.

And lastly, another way that you can put boundaries that will really help you, especially if you are listening to this episode and you already are in a relationship, it's  not to date him forever.

 If he likes you and if he loves you, if you are his dream girl, he will want to commit, and you don't need to convince him, and you don't need to date him forever for him to make a commitment with you.

So if you are at the beginning of the relationship and you were just dating, stay dating others until he asked you to be his boyfriend.

If it's gone three months and he's not claiming you, then it's time to end the relationship and continue dating others. Do not date this guy forever.

And, let's say that you are in a relationship with a guy, do not stay in a relationship with him forever.

If what you want is a life partner, you want to get married, and you want to create a family, then do not be in a relationship with him forever.

How long you stay with him is gonna really depend on your age.

If you are 18 years old is not going to be the same as, for example, me, I'm 47. So it's not going to be the same. Men know very, very, very soon whether they want to marry you or not, so there is absolutely no reason why you should be dating this guy forever.

If you are anything like old me used to be,  you are gonna listen to this podcast, and fear is gonna set in because you're gonna think, oh my God, if I put boundaries, then he's never gonna ask me out. He's never gonna date me.

This fear is absolutely valid.

But I invite you to work through your fear.

This was very much my case.

I was so scared to put boundaries in place because I didn't think that I was worthy.

I thought if I put boundaries, the guy is going to dump me, the guy that is not gonna want to date me, the guy will not want to see me.

And that is going to be very much the truth when he's not the one, when you put boundaries in place, this guy is not going to be interested in you.

But when the guy really likes you, he will not care. It's not that he won't care about your boundaries, but he will respect your boundaries.

And a guy who is not interested in you he's gonna be just thinking about himself and go like, oh, who does she think she is?

But a guy who likes you, he is going to think. Oh, sure. Of course. She's busy, she has a life, and she's a busy woman. She's got a really good job. She's a single mom. She's got responsibilities. She's a woman of high value. She's got hobbies, and I am not the only thing in his life. It's okay for her to have other things going on in her life.

So, can you see the difference in energy with the guy who's not interested at all and the guy who is just thinking about himself?

He's all about me, me, me, me, me and the guy who's a really good guy, he's gonna judge you kindly, like, oh, she's busy. She's got a life.

But a guy who, who is, you know, more narcissistic and he's only thinking about himself, is gonna judge you harshly and say, who does she think she is?

So you want to date the good guy instead of dating the guy who doesn't give a shit about what you got going on, that you might be busy, that you might have all the responsibilities and that you might already have plans and things like that.

You are going to have boundaries, and that is going to allow you to see who he is.

Having boundaries is the best, best thing that I have ever learned because having boundaries:

It's gonna save you so much time.

It's gonna save you so much energy.

It's gonna save your dignity

it's gonna save you from being with the wrong guy.

It's also gonna save you from dangerous guys. 

It's going to save you from men who don't care about you.

It's gonna save you from narcissistic men.

It's gonna save you from toxic relationships.

It's gonna save you from dating the wrong man forever.

So having boundaries is the best thing that you will ever learn.

it was the best thing that I ever learned

 And in particular, if you are an empath, if you are a nice girl, if you identify with being a people pleaser, right? So if you are any of these kinds of personalities, then boundaries are gonna save you so much; it's not gonna be easy, but it's gonna be so much worth it.

And I'll tell you what.  it's worth it because you are worth it.

If you are new to boundaries, I'm going to learn a bit more about boundaries, I really recommend you to get either my boundaries masterclass, which is called The Feminine Art Of Creating Beautiful Boundaries or get yourself my boundaries course, which is called The Beautiful Art Of Feminine Boundaries.

 The masterclass is just the one class, (it's a few hours long) and the course is a series of classes, I break down boundaries for you so that you understand it from every perspective and in every stage of the relationship.

So it will be really good for you if you are new to boundaries.

Exercise:

So ladies, so your exercise for today is to, in your journal write down what your new boundaries are going to be.

How many messages are you going to give to the guy?

How are you going to reduce the number of messages that you give the guy?

How long are you gonna wait to reply to his text message?

How long are you gonna wait for him to ask you out on a date?

How many messages are you gonna exchange with him before he asked you out on a date?

And when are you gonna stop?

How many dates you are going to give him for him to make it official?

How many dates is it going to be before you give him the cut-off? 

He's not asking you to be his girlfriend, then that is the next, and he's gonna drop out from the rotation, and you will carry on dating others, open his rotation spot to somebody else who is serious about dating me.

Write down according to how old you are.

Write down how long are you going to be in a relationship with a guy before he proposes to you, especially if you, obviously, if you want to be married, how long do you want to be?

Decide how long are you going to be on the phone with him?

Are you gonna give him five minutes?

Are you gonna give him 10 minutes?

What does it feel right for you?

Write it down and stick to it and come and share it with us on the Facebook group 

How long will your first date be?

Come into my Facebook group, the feminine goddess community and share your new boundaries with the other ladies in the community. 

Your feminine sisters will give you courage and help you to be accountable and to stick with it. 

Don't forget that you are a beautiful, high-value, feminine, romantic goddess, and you deserve the world.

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Thank you so much for listening. (Reading)

I would be so honoured if you decide to subscribe, and if you do, I can't wait to see you on the next Dating for the romantic goddess episode.

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