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This a Podcast for The Romantic Goddess wanting to learn to date the high-value way in order to magnetise her divine masculine man and manifest the relationship of her dreams. 

💕 If you want to awaken the confident, intuitive and creative Goddess within you.
💕 If you want to awaken your inner feminine strength and wisdom.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who doesn't chase.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who attracts.
💕 Who magnetises, who creates her own life.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who attracts her equal.
💕 If you want to be the goddess who doesn't settle
💕 If you want to attract a high-value healthy masculine man who you can respect and admire, who will love you, adore you and cherish you, respect and support you, lift you up and make you feel safe in your feminine energy.
💕 A man that knows your worth and treats you like the Queen you are.
💕 The king that you deserve

Then this podcast is for you. 

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Hello, My loves. Today we're going to be talking about "allowing."

You have no idea how happy I was when I was a baby coach; I realised that allowing in feminine energy and allowing in the law of attraction meant the same. I was so happy because I thought, oh wow, this will make our jobs so much easier because, like this, we won't have to work so hard at getting what we want.

And because I was trying to manifest love, and I wanted to manifest growing my business, I thought: well, this is just like magic. I can apply the same concept to getting everything that I want in my life.

So today, what we are going to talk about, you can apply it to dating, but you can also apply it to everything in life.

And the very first thing that I always do when I teach a new concept to my clients is to see what the opposite means.

Because English is my second language, I needed help understanding what allowing meant initially. So when I searched for the meaning of allowing in the dictionary, it needed to make more sense. But it all started to make sense when I looked at what not allowing meant.

So allowing means: 

to give yourself permission 

to go with the flow

to not be in resistance.

The opposite of allowing means:

to hold 

to to resist 

to ban 

to lock, 

to restrain 

to limit 

to bar 

to halt 

to constraint 

to the tear, 

to discourage 

to inhibit 

to withstand.

When I saw the opposite meaning of allowing, it all began to make sense, and obviously, when we are trying to achieve something, it just makes sense that you allow and you don't do the opposite, which would be in resistance.

The universe is trying to give you all these things, and you're saying no, no, no, the universe would be like, whaaaat? You told me you wanted this? What's wrong with you?

But sometimes, consciously, but most of the time unconsciously; this is what we do. We resist, and we deny ourselves exactly what we want.

Isn't that crazy?

So becoming aware of you not allowing it's a big, big, big principle to manifest what you want, but also in feminine energy and within a dating context, to allow it will mean:

To let him do all the work. 

Let him do all the chasing. 

let him do the initiating, 

let him do all the planning. 

You let him do the asking, 

let him do the pursuing,

and all you have to do is lean back, go with the flow and enjoy yourself.

In the modern style of dating, we get these messages all the time, "oh, you know, we can do it like the men, we can date Like men, we can ask men out," and sure, you can, and if that's what you want, yes, you can. But that is not going to lead to a very romantic relationship.

And as a feminine woman if you identify yourself as a feminine woman, this is not going to make you feel really good about yourself. And if you are after a masculine man, a healthy mature, masculine energy man, he is not going to feel very good about himself either. If you are doing all the work and you are doing all the asking.

So it just makes sense that to achieve a healthy relationship, you would allow and let him be who he is, and then all you need to do is like have your eyes open and see, you know, oh well, I like him how he is, or I don't like him how he is.

If you are happy with how he is, you lean back and allow, and if you're not happy, if you see something that you're not aligned with, you put boundaries in place, and you stop seeing this person, and you continue seeing others until you find someone that is in alignment with who you are.

Examples of allowing within the dating context:

Make sure that the dating apps that you go to are aligned with feminine energy.

Stay away from apps like Bumble, which forces you to be in your masculine and take the first step.

Instead, go with apps like Tinder or, even better, upgrade yourself to Tinder gold because then you will be able to swipe on men who already liked you and then be able to allow men to message you first.

Allow the man to be the one who asked you out on a date.

Allow the man to plan the date. 

Allow the man to choose where the date is going to be.

Allow the man to do the planning 

Allow the man to arrange all of the details, 

Allow the man, when you start seeing him, to ask you out on another date, 

Allow him to be the one who claims you and says I want to be in a relationship.

And in the meantime, you're not manipulating. You are not resisting; you are not doing things. You just lean back, allow and go with the flow, and let him do all the work.

What happens is that when you are in allowing energy and going with the flow, he has no option but to be on his masculine energy. Of course, it's going to feel natural to him to do all the work and all the asking and all the chasing and all the pursuing. (if he's a masculine man) And this will also lead him to feel really good about himself because he's with you doing all this masculine energy work, his testosterone levels will go up, and he will just be in a feel-good bubble when he is with you. He might be dating someone else who is richer, more beautiful and more successful or whatever than you. But this woman is doing all the work, So he will not feel really good when he is with her. But he will feel really good about himself when he is with you Because you are on your feminine energy. You are on your allowing energy. He doesn't feel manipulated. He doesn't feel overwhelmed. He enjoys being with you with your light and breezy energy.

Another magical thing that happens when you are in your allowing energy is that men really hate to be controlled, and they hate to be told what to do.

So you are not going to be doing any of that. You're going to be in your allowing energy letting him lead.

And this doesn't mean that you're letting him control you. You are just letting him lead, And by doing this, you can see what kind of man he is, what kind of man he is going to be, and you are going to be able to really see what he's made of.

And when you are allowing, you will be able to see this because you are taking a lean-back approach where you are not acting, you are not busy doing all the work you will be able to see what kind of person is. Men are showing us what kind of people they are, but when we are in pursuit mode, we are not able to see this.

If you have followed me for a while, you will know that I'm actually a certified Rules for dating coach and there are a lot of women that read the rules and throw the book away, and this is because the rules are giving you all these guidelines to embody allowing and some people feel don't feel very empowered by it because we're used to doing all the work all the time. (Masculine energy) 

But if you go beyond, you will realise that the rules really empower you because what the rules tell you is what to do so that you are allowing energy.

When you are in a fear energy, when you are in controlling energy, this is going to feel really easy to you, and it's going to feel like they're taking away the power from you.

But actually, to be in allowing energy, it's a very beautiful energy to go with the flow where you can lean back and allow and allow things to come to you, allow the guy to do things for you, allow him to woo you allow you to romance you allow you to sweep you off your feet instead of you doing all the work because society forces us all the time for us as women to be all the time on masculine energy, allowing energy might not feel 100% aligned to you.

And this is a big, big warning signal for you.

That means that you are on your masculine energy and you are not feminine energy.

So if you can, even though you are not dating, if you can practice being in your allowing feminine energy as much as you can, it will be really, really, really good for you.

It will allow you to be happier, and it will allow you to be more in alignment with your true authentic self.

If you want to learn more about allowing from the law of attraction point of view, I recommend that you go on youtube and search for Abraham Hicks or Esther Hicks and listen to what she has to say about allowing and about being in your, allowing energy to manifest anything that you want in your life.

But also within the dating context and within attracting the man of your life, you must allow and follow these steps.

To learn more about this, you can get my masterclass called the feminine art of surrender; I'll add the link to the show notes so that you can look at it.

And also, I do have an entire course on allowing, which is called The beautiful art of allowing.

In the beginning, when you are practising allowing, you might feel like you have no control over your life. You might feel like you're sitting on your hands. You might feel like you have no say in your love life. But I want you to remember that When you allow, you might not have the power to initiate. But, still, you do have the power to say no (this is going to be my next episode) you have the power to say no. You have the power to put boundaries, and when you are allowing, and you see something that you don't like, you have the power to turn around and say, well, I don't like this anymore, and just say no, I don't need to see this person anymore. I don't need to stay on this date anymore. I can end the date, I can end the phone call, I can end the conversation, I can end the relationship, and I can have all the power that I need.

So, you will not have the power to initiate, but you have all the power to end things.

You have all the power to say. Good luck to you. This is not me. Thank you very much. See you. You can have boundaries and say no.

And that's what we will talk about on the next podcast.

And with all that, I'll leave you to marinate in this information, and I have an exercise for you:

 I want you to have a look at your dating life,  your life, and your relationships.

How have you not been allowing?

How have you been doing the opposite of allowing?

In which ways have you been managing him?

How have you been controlling him?

How have you been telling him what to do?

How have you been planning your dates, and how have you been doing all the work?

And how have you not been in your feminine energy?

And I want you to ask yourself what would happen if you stopped doing that, and you would relax, lean back and let him do all the work.

What would happen?

And I want you to come into my free group, the feminine goddess community, on Facebook, which I will also link on my show notes so that you can come in and share with me what would happen.

If you were to stop, Would he keep chasing you and pursuing you?

Would he keep doing the work?

Would he enjoy it?

Would he complain?

This will be a really big telltale sign. 

If he is the one for you and truly in love with you, if he truly likes you, he will really, really enjoy the fact that you are giving him the power to lead.

But if he is Mr wrong and is not in love with you, and if he doesn't like you, he will not be happy.

And sometimes, we control and do all the things that we do, and we do not allow it because we are scared and we are in fear that if we don't do it, he will not do it, and then the relationship will end.

So I want you to journal about it and ask yourself what would be so long if the relationship ended If it is not the one, 

how will that affect you negatively in your life?

And I want you to realise that it wouldn't be the end of the world because when you lean back and allow, it means that you will allow the right guy for you to come into your life.

And then when you lean back and allow, and you are dating the right guy, then things will go so smoothly, and you will have the most beautiful relationship.

And then, when you lean back and allow it, it also means that the relationship will have the happy ending that you want. If you actually want to get married and you want to find a long-term relationship, you want to find your life partner. Then when you allow that is when things will go so much more beautifully and will be so much more in alignment with what you want so that you can continue being the feminine goddess, and for this,  you need to be with a masculine man that shows up for you.

If you are doing all the work, It means you're not being your Goddess self.

It means that the guy you're with is not the man of your dreams.

It means this is not the man that you want, and you need to be brave and courageous and let that go.

 To allow it also means to let go.

And this is a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful principle that I wanted to share with you today because you are worthy of being in your allowing energy. You are worthy of being in your goddess energy, and you are worthy of a man who wants to be with you, who will step up for you, who would be a masculine man for you and who you can relax and be safe in your feminine energy.

Don't forget that you are a beautiful, high-value, feminine, romantic goddess, and you deserve the world.

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Thank you so much for listening.(Reading)

I would be so honoured if you decide to subscribe, and if you do, I can't wait to see you on the next Dating for the romantic goddess episode.

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