Description

Summary

In this episode of the Humans vs Retirement podcast, Sheridan shares her inspirational journey through trauma and healing, emphasising the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our experiences.

Our conversation explores the challenges of modern retirement, likening it to a form of grief, and highlights the need for intentional preparation for this significant life transition. Sheridan and I explore the emotional and psychological aspects of navigating challenges, particularly in the context of retirement and personal growth. We discuss the importance of understanding emotional responses, the necessity of lifelong learning, and the skills required to manage sensations and emotions effectively.

She emphasises the significance of spending money wisely to create lasting memories, the barriers individuals face in changing their spending habits, and the differences in emotional expression between genders. The conversation concludes with actionable insights for listeners to reflect on their own narratives regarding money and life transitions.

Key Takeaways

• Sheridan's story illustrates resilience and the power of healing.
• The nervous system plays a crucial role in our life experiences.
• Modern retirement poses unique challenges for individuals.
• Retirement can evoke feelings similar to grief.People often neglect to plan adequately for retirement.
• Understanding one's nervous system can aid in emotional regulation.
• The transition into retirement can feel lonely and confusing.
• Money is a significant factor in how we experience safety and identity.
• Intentional preparation for retirement can lead to fulfillment.
• This phase of life can be the most rewarding if approached thoughtfully. Your body perceives the threat is too big.
• We just haven't given ourselves the tools to deal with challenges.
• Every single thing that we avoid is about the sensations it creates.
• Being with corporal sensation is a skill that can be learned.
• The best retirees are lifelong learners who stay curious.
• Learn how to be with more sensations in your body.
• Spending money is a skill that no one's ever been taught.
• Turn your money into memories rather than just saving.
• Your full-time job is now nervous system regulation after retirement.
• The biggest blocker to spending is our internal wiring and identity.

Sound Bites

"Sheridan's story is truly inspirational."
"The nervous system's job is to keep you safe."
"Retirement is like a form of grief."
"This is crucial stage of life."
"Your body perceives the threat is too big."
"We just haven't given ourselves the tools."
"Being with corporal sensation is a skill."
"The best retirees are lifelong learners."
"Turn your money into memories."
"The biggest blocker is our internal wiring."

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction and Background
07:50 - Sheridan's Journey Through Trauma
14:57 - Understanding the Nervous System
19:52 - The Challenges of Modern Retirement
26:04 - Retirement as a Form of Grief
28:02 - Understanding Emotional Responses to Challenges
32:15 - The Importance of Lifelong Learning
34:10 - Navigating Sensations and Emotions
35:21 - The Skill of Spending Money Wisely
38:41 - Barriers to Spending and Emotional Vulnerability
41:26 - Nervous System Regulation and Emotional Processing
44:37 - Gender Differences in Emotional Expression
49:27 - Final Thoughts and Homework for Listeners

Links

• www.sheridanruth.com
• Nervous System Cheat Sheet