Unmasking the Jokers: Our Guide to Overcoming Toxic Relationships

Description

In today's episode, Laura is joined by Monaca Vanderpool, an international podcast host, bestselling author, and highly successful entrepreneur. Monaca shares her journey through personal adversities, including a 13-year toxic relationship, an unexpected health diagnosis, and the challenges of single parenthood. She discusses how these experiences led her to write "Jokers Dressed Up As Kings" and create "The Glitch Mob Podcast" to support others navigating toxic relationships.

Monaca highlights the importance of understanding narcissistic traits and behaviors, emphasizing the power of going "no contact" with toxic ex-partners and the effectiveness of "gray rocking" when communication is unavoidable. She also touches on the healing power of journaling and the value of sharing one's story to help others. They both stress the importance of authenticity in storytelling and not letting others' opinions silence them. They further touch on the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist and offer helpful advice for maintaining boundaries.

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Timestamps:

[01:38] Monaca’s background and her journey

[03:04] The importance of putting words to pain in healing

[05:44] How strong, independent women can be targets for narcissists

[07:34] Link between narcissistic abuse and the manipulation tactics used in cults

[14:56] The freedom of and joy of leaving narcissistic relationships

[15:36] How narcissists recycle romantic gestures as part of their love-bombing tactics

[18:15] The importance of journaling in healing from narcissistic abuse

[19:04] The positive impact of one person's courage on another's healing

[23:03] Importance of keeping a list of abusive behaviors

[27:42] The need to talk about narcissism and its impacts

[29:56] How to handle communication with an ex when co-parenting

[33:56] The gray rocking technique in managing communication with an ex

[41:12] Monaca’s plans for speaking engagements and outreach

Quotes:

It's beautiful to have a strong, independent woman who has a powerful voice, but unfortunately, that makes us targets.
Healing is not linear. Healing is so messy.
Be yourself. When I started doing that, I started attracting people who wanted to hear what I had to say.

Gray rocking feels good because you have become a better person. You do rise. You rise above it, and you become a better person. And it just feels good.
You are not a victim of sharing your story. You're a survivor. Setting the world on fire with your truth. You never know who needs your light, your warmth and rage and courage
We all have a story to tell. And you're allowed to tell your story. That doesn't mean you're living in the past. And that's a manipulative word phrase to say to people. That's what toxic people say, to keep people quiet, that you're talking about the past.
The beauty of the gray rocking is that they eventually lose interest because they know you won't react to them. So you're protecting your peace.