In this raw and deeply human episode, Rachel takes you inside one of the most confronting moments of her life — a moment she always imagined would feel joyful, but instead sparked a spiral she never saw coming. Even as someone who teaches emotional mastery and self-trust for a living, she found herself knocked flat by fear, identity questions, and the weight of a life-altering decision she couldn't think her way out of.
Rachel shares the honest mental loops she found herself trapped in, the moment someone she loves offered an escape she knew she'd never take, and the surprising realisation that changed everything. What unfolded next wasn't about perfection, strength, or being "evolved"—but about recognising the power hidden in the exact words we say when we're terrified.
This episode shines a light on the difference between choices made from fear and those made from desire, and how easy it is to confuse the two when your mind feels like it's on fire. Rachel breaks down the subtle clues that reveal what you truly want (even when you're convinced you don't know), and what it takes to build the internal muscle required to make desire-based decisions—especially when they feel unbearably uncomfortable.
Whether you're navigating a crossroads, resisting a truth you don't want to see, or stuck in a cycle of overthinking, this conversation will help you understand why certain decisions feel impossible—and how to move toward the freedom, clarity, and groundedness you're craving.
How to recognise whether you're making a choice from fear or desire
How to catch the language that reveals what you truly want
How to rebuild clarity when your mind is spiralling
How to interpret discomfort without letting it drive your decisions
How to take the first steps toward making desire-based choices
How to practise "decision-making reps" so big choices feel lighter
How to cultivate internal freedom before making any life-changing move
