Season 2: Series 10: Episode 2- Dating a Draft, Not a Person
January 25, 2026
This series explores the idea that we embark on a journey to understand that potential is not a promise; there must be a connection that requires presence.
We talk a lot about connection. About chemistry. That feeling of having met someone who sees us, gets us, and makes something in us come alive. But sometimes... we are not connected to a person. We are connected to the belief in their potential. We fall in love with the version of them they could become, if only they healed, tried, or got serious. However, the truth is that you were not in a relationship with them. You were in a relationship with a draft of them.
It is like falling for a top draft pick who never shows up to practice. The raw talent is there. The hype. The clips. They discuss how well they could play the game. But every time it is game day, they disappear. Or make excuses. Or blame the coach. And you? You are still sitting in the stands, believing the season will start any day now. But connection is not built on scouting reports; it is built on shared effort. On playing the same game together.
Or it is like falling in love with someone's demo tape. The voice gives you chills. The lyrics hint at depth. You start imagining the album, the tour, the liner notes with your name in the credits. However, they never return to the studio. They never finish the song. You are in love with a melody they will not record, and suddenly you realize: You were the only one trying to bring the music to life. And connection? It needs more than a spark. It needs rhythm. Harmony. Commitment to creating something tangible together.
Here's what no one tells you:
Connection is not about what could be; it is about what is. It is about what is. It is built in the now; in presence, action, effort, response. You cannot create something lasting with someone who is still undecided about whether they want to be there. You cannot coach them into becoming the person you need them to be. And you cannot harmonize with someone who will not even pick up their instrument.
So ask yourself:
Are you in love with who they are, or who you hope they might become?
And if they never change… would you still choose this connection?
Because love is not about finishing someone else's draft.
It is about showing up entirely written, fully willing, and co-authoring something true. Whole person with whole person. This does not mean there is no creation and construction together; however, there are two distinct individuals in a relationship.
Some of the themes covered in this episode are:
Take time to reflect
What is the level of giving grace and being delusional?
What season of life for ourselves? Others?
Actions speak louder than words
Self-transformation and appreciation
Some knowledge about marriage, character, and understanding relationships
How do we administer grace to others?
Often, if we listen to information and emotions lead back to working on ourselves.
Co-Host Biographies:
Jasmine A. Green, MAOL., is an inspiring, informative, and passionate advocate for individuals. With her extensive experience in personal development, she shares practical self-care and community engagement strategies that are both effective and accessible.
Rhonda A. Lindsay is a servant leader at heart. She is continually seeking ways to enhance effectiveness within our community. She values collaborating with individuals and communities to benefit all participants.
Sebrina A. Lindsay-Law, Ed.D., CPDC, is a career student who advocates for learning opportunities, structures, and practices in any environment. She believes that everything is a lesson with a chance to grow and improve as an individual.
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Email: existence@evle.org
