In this solo episode of Cawfee Tawk, I define the very Italian-American condition known as agita—that constant low-grade stomach churn you get when other people's words, actions, and choices affect you way more than you want them to.
I talk about how much time I spend fixating on things I can't control, and how that mental spiral eats up entire days of my life. We get into why my divorce video went viral (spoiler: it wasn't an accident), and why so many of us are walking around with the same quiet frustration, grief, and resentment—just in different packaging.
I break down the hard truth that we can't control other people, we can't control circumstances, and we can't avoid everything that causes us agita. Even the highs in life don't always balance out the lows—and pretending they should only adds more pressure.
I also talk about real friendship: the kind that doesn't require maintenance, scripts, or fake "hellos." The kind where you can call your best friend at any moment and say, "The best thing just happened" or "The worst thing just happened," and they meet you exactly where you are—no warm-up required.
If you've ever felt emotionally exhausted by other people, overwhelmed by things you can't fix, or guilty for wanting less noise and more peace… this one's for you.
Let's talk agita.
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Welcome to Cawfee Tawk with Tara Cannistraci AKA TaraJokes! Join comedian Tara Cannistraci every Monday! Tara reflects on the week that was or the life that was, whether it's nostalgia about NYC life, current trends, or real-life stories. This podcast is perfectly timed to accompany your morning coffee. Good morning, fellow cawfee lovers!
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Tara Cannistraci is an Italian-American comedian, actress, and writer, hailing from the vibrant streets of the Bronx, New York. Tara's talents have lit up the stage, television, film, and even centerfield as the scoreboard host for the New York Yankees.
Tara brought her unfiltered, humorous take on popular sports topics to SNY's Emmy award-winning television show "Oh Yeah," where she both wrote for and featured in the series. Currently, she co-hosts the Chazz Palminteri Show podcast, captivating audiences with her honest insights and vivacious personality. She also co-produced and starred in We Stand Comedy's multi award-winning short film "The Chart" showcasing her versatility & misdirecting sense of humor.
On social media, Tara has gained a following by sharing the words and phrases she grew up hearing in her New York Italian neighborhood, resonating with people across the country. Her comedy album, "I'm Talkin' Here," is a regular feature on Sirius XM.
Tara's new YouTube series, "Boroughbreds," features her doing hilarious on-the-street interviews throughout the New York boroughs, highlighting all things New York from common phrases to family owned businesses.
Tara has opened for comedy heavyweights like Josh Wolf, Joey Diaz and Vic DiBitetto, and now headlines shows across the U.S. and Canada. Her authenticity and wit continue to win over audiences wherever she performs!
