Welcome to The Meredith Patterson Podcast – where we break down the highs, lows, and everything in between about personal growth, mental health, and living your best life.
Today's topic is one we've all grappled with at some point: high expectations and the subtle but powerful art of comparison. Specifically, we'll explore the concept of "comparing up" versus "comparing down." These terms might sound simple, but they carry profound implications for how we see ourselves and navigate our lives. So, grab a cup of coffee or tea, and let's dive in.
Comparing Up
The problem with "comparing up" is that it often leads to negative feelings like:
Losing perspective on where you actually are in life.
Obsessing about what you're not instead of appreciating what you are.
Failing to enjoy your accomplishments because they don't seem good enough in comparison.
And worst of all, depleting your confidence and sense of self-worth.
It's a vicious cycle, right? The more you compare, the more inadequate you feel, and the more you want to compare to "see where you stand."
The Role of High Expectations, Comparing Up vs Comparing Down
When we set these sky-high standards for ourselves, it becomes even easier to "compare up."
High expectations can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, they can motivate us to push our limits and achieve amazing things. But on the other hand, they can make us hypercritical of ourselves, especially when we fall short of those expectations—or when someone else seems to have surpassed them.
It's about finding that balance. Ambition is great, but not when it's fueled by constant self-criticism.
Practical Tips for Shifting the Mindset
If you're listening and wondering how to make this shift, here are a few tips:
Reflect regularly. Take time each week to think about what you've achieved recently and how you've grown compared to a year ago.
Journal. Write down your thoughts, goals, and progress. Sometimes seeing it on paper makes it more real.
Limit social media. Or at least be mindful of how it affects your mindset. Remember, most people share their highlight reel, not their full story.
Celebrate small wins. Don't wait for the "big" moments to give yourself credit. Every step forward matters.
Surround yourself with positive influences. Spend time with people who uplift and encourage you, not those who fuel the comparison game.
And remember, this isn't about ignoring ambition or stopping your pursuit of growth. It's about making sure you're growing for the right reasons and appreciating the journey along the way.
It's all about perspective and learning to be kinder to yourself.
Bliss Is Your Birthright
Have vision for what you want, and be grateful for where you are every single day!
Thank you for listening
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