Description

In this transformative episode, I show you how to escape the Drama Triangle pattern that exhausts leaders and robs them of power.

If you've ever said yes when you want to say no, then felt resentful about your obligations, and then got angry at others for your situation, congratulations! You've just cycled through all three Drama Triangle roles: Rescuer, Victim, and Persecutor, and you've given your power away in each position.

Key Concepts:

The Drama Triangle Roles:

• Rescuer - "Ill save the day!" Saying yes when you should say no, thinking "if I don't do it, it won't get done right"
• Victim - Feeling powerless, focused on what's wrong versus what you control
• Persecutor - Blaming others, making them wrong to make yourself right

The Empowerment Triangle Alternative: We can break this cycle!

Instead of a Rescuer → Be a Coach: Ask questions that empower others

Instead of a Victim → Be a Creator: Focus on what you can influence and create a new future

Instead of a Persecutor → Be a Challenger: Challenge people to grow

Three Immediate Strategies:

1. Pause before rescuing - ask if solving helps them grow
2. Use questions before solutions
3. Make clear agreements instead of assumptions

 Resources Mentioned:

1. TED: The Empowerment Dynamic
2.  The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership

When you move above the line into Coach, Creator or Challenger, your team becomes more capable, you reclaim energy, and problems get solved instead of managed. Visit ClaireLaughlin.com and connect at ClaireLaughlinConsulting.

Stay above the line and lead the way!