Description

📋 Episode Summary

In this episode, Marc and Emily explore the concept of hardwiring—those patterns, instincts, and tendencies that shape how we show up in life, work, and relationships. From Enneagram types to Gallup Strengths to late-in-life ADHD diagnoses, they reflect on how assessments can help us understand ourselves more clearly—and when labels might actually get in the way.

With humor, vulnerability, and a lot of real-life examples, they explore:

• The usefulness and limitations of personality profiles
• How deeper self-awareness can reframe past stories
• What it means to take responsibility without shame
• How to describe yourself without falling into shorthand labels
• Why saying "you're just a..." might be the most damaging thing of all

Plus, an unexpected movie reference that brings the point home.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Hardwiring refers to our natural patterns—our instinctive responses and behavior tendencies.
• Personality assessments like Enneagram, StrengthsFinder, or DISC can offer language for reflection, but shouldn't become excuses or cages.
• Knowing your patterns gives you space to pause, choose your response, and lead with intention.
• Labels like "just a 9" or "typical 7" can be harmful when used to dismiss or stereotype.
• Self-awareness is not self-absorption—it's leadership.

🗣 Quote Highlights

"When we understand ourselves, we can see our stories in the light of truth instead of shame." – Emily
"Sometimes peace is great. But it's not always the goal." – Emily
"Hardwiring is how you show up when you're not trying." – Marc
"Saying 'you're just a…' turns a helpful tool into a weapon." – Marc
"My curiosity wants me to learn. It's one of my Gallup strengths—another assessment!" – Marc

🧰 Tools & Mentions

• Enneagram
• CliftonStrengths (Gallup)
• DISC Personality Profile
• Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium (Film reference – Jason Bateman as "the mutant")
• Co-Active Leadership by Karen and Henry Kimsey-House
• Concord Leadership Group

🎺 That Music!

Special thanks to Lexi Moreno, Caleb Pitman, and Zoe Czarnecki for the original music. Lexi Moreno: composing, mixing, mastering, guitar; Caleb Pitman: composing, mixing, trumpet; Zoe Czarnecki: bass.