The Comparison Trap: Defining Success on Your Own Terms

Description

Did you know that 60% of adults gauge their worth by others? Tamara Loring and Dr. Mike Smith tackle the "infamous" comparison trap – from its origins and far-reaching impacts on both your career and personal fulfillment.

They explore the different phenomena that keep us stuck, exacerbated by social media, and touch upon the Career Revolution's Five Steps to Finding Your Primary Aim. Learn how to build a comparison-proof career and the life of your dreams.

Tamara and Dr. Mike address the "infamous" comparison trap and unpack its origin and repercussions on both your career and personal life.
Dr. Mike points out that this is a problem pretty much anyone, of any age, and anywhere in the world faces.
According to a 2023 YourGov survey, 60% of adults measure their own success and self-worth by looking at what others are doing and achieving, especially as it relates to career progression and financial milestones.
Dr. Mike discusses how stopping daydreaming and following someone's orders are something we have been taught from a very young age.
It's important not only to love what you do, as well as the process that helps you unpack and discover who you really are, and not to be influenced by what others do and their "picture-perfect" lives on display on social media.
Tamara asks a key existential question: "We only get this one life, so why not make it the best life ever?".
Tamara mentions the Career Revolution book, and zooms in on the "Five Steps to Finding Your Primary Aim" exercise.
Dr. Mike explains that it's not just about focusing on what we want in life… It's also about what we DON'T want in life.
Dr. Mike and Tamara talk about the role of asking yourself what your purpose in this life is.
Battered Career Syndrome is a "plague" that sees people constantly putting themselves through the same continuum even if they don't feel fulfilled and happy.
Tamara believes that the comparison trap often leads to you robbing yourself of your personal freedom.
Dr. Mike goes over two different scenarios: one in which you should and one where you shouldn't compare yourself to others.
75% of the adult population has the desire to be self-sufficient but are scared to do something by themselves…
You should strive for being surrounded by dream catchers, instead of dream stealers, says Tamara.
What do some of the most prominent and wealthiest people in the world have in common? When they bet on anything, they bet on themselves.