• Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences
• Colette's relaxed holiday without her kids
• Daniel's stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles
• Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires
• Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid
• Giants' struggles, game mishaps, and kicker issues
• Annoyance at Kansas City's continued success and Cowboys rivalry
• Social media comparison culture affecting relationships
• Pressure from idealized online portrayals vs. real life
• Comparison in the past (holiday cards) vs. constant modern exposure
• Performative relationship presentation and couples divorcing despite appearing perfect
• "Gray divorce" trend among people 50+
• Rising gray-divorce rates while overall divorce rates fall
• Causes of gray divorce: growing apart, empty nest, long-term unhappiness
• Women initiating most divorces due to increased independence
• Less tolerance for unhealthy or abusive long-term relationships
• Women leaving disconnected marriages after decades of misery
• Some couples staying miserable for years
• Personal gratitude for having healthier parental models
• Possibility of fixing issues before reaching gray-divorce age
• Older couples' grumpiness as an "act" rather than true misery
• Enmeshment, codependency, and low-grade unhappiness in long marriages
• Changing expectations around marriage and desire for deeper connection
• Settling vs. actively improving a relationship
• Negativity being easier than expressing affection
• Relationships needing intentional effort and kindness
• Debate of repairing a relationship vs. starting over
• Mutual effort, communication, vulnerability, and appreciation
• Recognizing when only one partner is doing the work
• Personal growth as the first step toward repairing issues
• Listener emails about empty-nester fears
• Encouraging open conversations about the transition
• Validating both excitement and fear as bonding opportunities
• Joke about having another baby and related risks
• Habitual lateness in friendships and dating
• Whether chronic lateness can change
• Lateness seen as inconsiderate and selfish
• Emotional impact of others being late
• Adults' responsibility to respect others' time
• Predictable lateness patterns and communicating boundaries
• Importance of notifying others when running late
• Lateness signaling someone's time isn't valued
• Anecdotes about partners who avoid being early
• Intent vs. impact in lateness
• Hurt caused by repeated lateness despite requests
• Deciding whether to keep making plans with late people
• Debate over giving slack vs. upholding values
• Being on time as a personal identity
• Using buffer time to stay punctual
• Setting boundaries around lateness
• Listener praise for the show
• Question about poetry in modern dating
• Party with an on-demand love-poem writer
• Gay social events with creative entertainment
• Fundraiser with themed performers in every room
• Gay friends throwing more elaborate parties
• Adults enjoying whimsical activities like face painting
• Decline of poetry in dating
• Nostalgia for romantic gestures like custom poems
• Writing poems or symbolic gifts as romance
• "Key to my heart" car-key gesture example
• Romantic vulnerability appreciated when interest is mutual
• Making a bound book of poems after divorce
• Embarrassment over past over-the-top gestures
• Feeling previous partners didn't value romantic efforts
• Pulling back romantically after negative past experiences
• Romantic gestures fading in long relationships but still meaningful
• Listeners relating to giving up on effort after lack of appreciation
• Love languages shaping what gestures matter
• Suspicion of grand gestures when out of character
• Big gifts perceived as guilt
• Preference for small, thoughtful gestures
• Bringing home garden flowers as simple affection
• Tailoring gestures to the relationship
• Thoughtfulness mattering more than format
• Writing a poem for a partner after a parent's death
• Partner framing the poem as a keepsake
• Dark humor in personal writing
• Acts of service like cleaning a partner's car
• Love languages lacking scientific validation but still useful
• Balancing effort across work, parenting, marriage, and self-care
• Partner needs often neglected when overwhelmed
• "Quiet quitting" relationships through emotional neglect
• Disconnection leading to gray-divorce or roommate-style marriages
• Value of small daily acts of presence
• Five-minute check-ins to maintain connection
• Quality time over quantity
• Phones and mobile games interfering with relationships
• Avoiding relationship effort similar to avoiding exercise
• Small daily actions rebuilding habits and connection
• "No time" as an excuse; micro-commitments help
• Encouraging a few minutes of daily relational investment
• Homework: small daily effort toward connection
• Promotion of Colette's upcoming book *The Cost of Quiet*
• Closing the show with plans to return next week
