• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair
• Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch
• Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz
• Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book
• Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering
• Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue
• Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships
• Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time
• Phones and constant distraction worsening disconnection
• Live podcast recording planned at the launch event
• Meet-and-greet with hosts and attendees
• Food, drinks, and relaxed, low-pressure atmosphere emphasized
• Event positioned as an easy entry point to relationship work
• Participation from local therapists and community voices
• Focus on improving connection and reducing loneliness
• Communication breakdowns linked to phones and social media
• Ticket info shared via website, show notes, and live chat
• Giveaway of 10 free tickets with email entry instructions
• Encouragement for longtime listeners and newcomers alike
• Listener email praising the show and a long, happy marriage
• Discussion of attraction and intimacy growing over time
• Question of whether partners value being praised publicly
• Importance of expressing appreciation beyond generic compliments
• Hosts affirm appreciation as rare and essential for relationship health
• Daily emotional check-ins encouraged over routine small talk
• Using specific appreciation during check-ins
• Small household efforts as meaningful signs of care
• Feeling "seen" through acknowledgment of little things
• Research showing many positives needed to outweigh negatives
• Couples overfocusing on complaints under stress
• Balancing grievances with gratitude and affirmation
• Limits of love languages and pressure to self-label
• Most people still enjoying praise even if they claim otherwise
• Compliments about effort, attraction, and appearance matter
• Men and women both valuing being told they look good
• Compliments boosting confidence in partners and children
• Kids learning affirmation through modeled behavior
• Discussion of whether too much praise can feel smothering
• Difference between healthy appreciation and unhealthy overdoing it
• Encouragement to ask partners how they prefer to feel loved
• Public praise versus private appreciation preferences
• Teasing and joking as long-term bonding dynamics
• Humor, hazing, and exaggeration as signs of emotional security
• Reinforcing that genuine appreciation is usually welcomed
• Introduction of purpose anxiety and pressure to "find your purpose"
• Reframing purpose as small, evolving, and practical
• Careers often developing without a clear master plan
• Feeling trapped in unfulfilling work contributing to loneliness
• Advice to seek small joys instead of drastic life changes
• Accepting that even meaningful work still includes stress
• Finding meaning outside of work when necessary
• Hobbies and side interests potentially growing into fulfillment
• Parenting parallels about finding positives in disliked activities
• Ballet discipline example showing delayed appreciation
• Love languages explained as tools, not science
• Overview of quality time, acts of service, touch, words, and gifts
• Emphasis on asking directly what makes a partner feel loved
• Alone time recognized as a valid emotional need
• Mental load carried by women in families highlighted
• Importance of noticing invisible planning and emotional labor
• Encouraging proactive support rather than assumptions
• Transition to dating after divorce in your 40s
• Anxiety about modern dating norms and apps
• Dating apps described as discouraging and dehumanizing
• Encouragement toward low-pressure, in-person dates
• Digital chemistry often failing to translate in real life
• Normalizing awkwardness when reentering dating
• Rebuilding social confidence through friendships
• Reassurance that kind, stable partners are in demand
• Emphasis on human need for real connection over technology
• Invitation to the book launch as a social, organic meet opportunity
• Reminder of free ticket giveaway and confirmation process
• Lighthearted humor, optimism, and closing thanks
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