Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fair
Playful debate over old school chivalry and introducing women
Promoting Colette Fair podcast and her book The Cost of Quiet
How traditional chivalry feels awkward to younger generations
Southern manners like yes maam and holding doors
Bathroom door mishaps lead to installing occupied slider sign
Anxiety over helping women with heavy boxes
Chivalry anxiety and overthinking polite gestures
Debate: polite vs sexist door holding
Observing fewer door holders in New York vs the South
Chivalry as dating charm and intentional courting behavior
Holding doors for everyone vs gender specific gestures
Performative manners vs real respect
Kids questioning equality and why boys should do extra
Mixed cultural messages about equality and roles
Preferring chivalry in marriage over strangers
Helping with airplane luggage as practical kindness
Metro dilemma over offering seat to marathon runner
Safer approach: simply ask if someone wants help
Generational divide over manners and equality
Colette appearance on The Tamron Hall Show
Airing details across ABC, CW, Hulu timing uncertainty
SoHo studio experience and traditional TV production
Other shows filmed there: The View, GMA, Kelly and Mark
Live audience of 110 receiving her book
Scale of national TV production behind the scenes
Pre show nerves despite long media career
All day anticipation anxiety before live events
Calm once actually on stage or on camera
Similar dread before hosting live beer fests
Public speaking fear as herd survival instinct
Exhaustion from recurring pre event anxiety
Accepting that stage fear may never fully disappear
Using self soothing tools from her book
Live TV pressure as on call expert
Feeling thrown off by unexpected questions
Topic focused on mothers in law and difficult family dynamics
Applying romantic communication tools to family conflict
Mothers feeling threatened by sons partners
Clarifying language around moving on from parents
Self consciousness under studio lights
Fear of underperforming on national TV
Post show memory blur and replay anxiety
Spontaneous audience applause as validation
Rising trend of family cut offs via social media culture
When cut offs are appropriate vs avoidance
Emphasizing communication and boundaries first
Personal hurt from longtime friend during book launch
Temptation to cut off instead of confront
Avoiding triangulation through mutual friends
Questioning intent vs impact in conflict
Accepting shift in closeness without drama
Redirecting energy to reciprocal relationships
Never give up mindset can prolong unhealthy ties
Middle ground before full cut off
Trust built through repeated repair attempts
Deciding to accept relationship as is or move on
Cultural narrative of sons leaving mothers for partners
Anxiety among mothers of sons after marriage
Advice: be warm and non judgmental to sons partner
Avoid power struggles and control tactics
Positive example of respectful mother in law relationship
Tamron show featured repaired and permanent cut offs
Tease: what to do when you are sick of your partner
Book plug for The Cost of Quiet and audiobook praise
Invitation for listener emails
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