• Audience enjoying the relationship show
• Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
• More relationship content appearing in social media feeds
• Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness
• Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds
• Brief joke about Hezbollah/Hezzy and Mike Tyson's age confusion
• Introduction of the online "Bird Theory" test
• Example of a staged bird video illustrating the concept
• Gottman's "bids for connection" explained
• Turning toward bids linked to long-term satisfaction
• Bids are small attempts to connect, not about literal topics
• Importance of responding even when uninterested
• Ping-pong analogy for communication
• Sharing memes, sports, or small moments as valid bids
• Ignoring bids due to distraction or overload
• Emotional harm from consistently missed bids
• Healthy couples turn toward bids about 86% of the time
• Harmful dismissive responses highlighted
• Context affecting how humor or timing lands
• Supporting a partner's unrelated interests
• Overwhelming feeling of family members sending constant bids
• Fear of hurting loved ones by not responding
• Parent-child responsiveness applied to spouses
• Spouses feeling de-prioritized next to children
• Challenges in blended families and differing loyalties
• Listener email expressing gratitude for the show
• Joke about putting the show behind a paywall
• Introduction of "retroactive jealousy" question
• Retroactive jealousy defined as fixation on a partner's past
• Normalizing jealousy but focusing on how it's handled
• Rumination triggered by hearing about an ex
• Differentiating insecurity from internal anxiety
• Strategy of acknowledging emotions without shaming
• Wondering why a partner often mentions an ex
• Dismissing humorous "exposure therapy" ideas
• Past-reference context in blended families
• Sudden jealousy sparks in long relationships
• Jealousy isn't the problem—behaviors are
• Past betrayals and personality traits shaping jealousy
• Acceptable to address repeated ex mentions calmly
• Irrational jealousy about teenage events resurfacing
• Watching old VHS tapes and feeling disconnected from past selves
• Exploring why old incidents still sting
• Jealousy sometimes signaling a need for reassurance
• Limited dating histories magnifying past details
• Young relationships evolving into adult ones
• Encouragement to ask compassionate questions
• Fear that discussing issues could "unravel" the relationship
• Recurring infidelity dreams indicating insecurity
• Question about when to show aggression publicly
• Concern over being labeled a "Karen/Kyle"
• Aggression rejected; assertiveness encouraged
• Example of respectful assertiveness when correcting mistakes
• Story of confronting a line-cutter who was blind
• Story of confronting a smoker who was a little person
• Risk of situations escalating or going viral
• Critique of fight-for-honor culture
• Mixed reactions to someone flirting with a spouse
• Some wanting mild jealousy as proof of care
• Jealousy not equal to love
• Partners vary in territorial feelings
• Email from a woman whose relationship began as a work affair
• Agreement delaying introductions to his kids for two years becoming 15
• Missing major family events due to exclusion
• Partner shutting down whenever it's discussed
• Kids possibly resenting the affair
• Avoidance being harmful regardless of the kids' stance
• Distinguishing kid acceptance issues from partner communication issues
• Avoidance giving short-term relief but long-term damage
• Need for open talk about shame, loyalty, and exclusion
• Theme of the therapist's book: the cost of avoidance
• Promotion of "The Cost of Quiet" and preorder bonuses
• Promotion of the Dec. 3 "Pitch a Friend" event
• Event format: three-minute friend pitches
• Event is free or low cost
• Previous events included all ages and red-flag/green-flag games
• Listeners asking if Colette will attend Beer Fest
• Confirmation she will be there
• Invitation for listeners to meet her at the Beer Fest
• Peanuts-style "advice 5¢" joke
• Joke about giving advice for an email address
• Colette excited to meet listeners at both events
• Closing note that they'll see listeners next week
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