In this third episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores "The Lonely Season," a period of solitude that often follows outgrowing relationships, friendships, or life situations. Toi shares personal stories of navigating loneliness during major life transitions and emphasizes how this challenging time is essential for self-discovery, healing, and growth. She encourages listeners to embrace the discomfort, confront their flaws, and take accountability, highlighting that the lonely season—though difficult—ultimately leads to deeper self-understanding and transformation. The episode concludes with a promise to discuss practical self-care strategies in the next installment.
Timestamps
Defining the Lonely Season (00:00:44) Toi explains what the "lonely season" is and when it typically occurs in life.
Lonely Season in Friendships (00:01:29) Toi shares personal experiences of outgrowing friendships and the resulting loneliness.
Travel and Self-Discovery (00:03:07) Toi discusses how travel and new experiences during lonely times contributed to her self-discovery.
Gratitude for Growth (00:05:00) Toi expresses gratitude for the experiences and people that shaped her during lonely seasons.
Self-Reflection and Accountability (00:07:56) Toi emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, dating oneself, and personal growth during lonely times.
Facing Yourself & Shadow Work (00:09:02) Toi discusses the necessity of confronting personal flaws and doing "shadow work" during the lonely season.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode
"Had I not done that, I would not have become the person I am today."
"The lonely season when it comes to relationships has been the most difficult."
"During the lonely season, I'm telling you from absolute experience, you're going to learn who you are."
"I allowed that person to use me as a solution to a problem I never created."
"During this lonely season, from my experience, the one person you can't lie to is yourself."
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"The lonely season isn't punishment—it's preparation for who you're becoming."
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