In this solo episode of Practically Spiritual, host Reena opens up about her journey through a difficult marriage, emotional disconnect, and divorce. She reflects on the importance of emotional safety, friendship, and vulnerability in relationships, sharing how she tried to salvage her marriage but ultimately chose self-awareness and self-care. Reena discusses her personal growth, the impact on her children, and encourages listeners to prioritize genuine connection and alignment in their own lives, reminding them that choosing themselves can be the healthiest and most loving decision.
Timestamps
The Illusion of a Perfect Marriage (00:01:04) Reena discusses how her marriage looked perfect on the outside but was emotionally disconnected behind closed doors.
Conversations About Friendship and Vulnerability (00:03:11) Reena recounts attempts to discuss friendship and vulnerability with her husband, and his resistance to emotional closeness.
Emotional Safety and Pursuing Personal Joy (00:06:05) Reena explains her need for emotional safety, her bakery venture, and reclaiming parts of herself through creative pursuits.
Unhealthy Communication Patterns (00:08:55) Reena describes long periods of silence after fights, failed attempts at counseling, and the ongoing emotional disconnect.
Staying Together for the Kids? (00:10:44) She discusses the misconception of staying together for children and her decision to model a healthier relationship for them.
The Reality of Daily Life and Emotional Needs (00:16:57) She reflects on the exhaustion of daily routines, lack of emotional connection, and the importance of vulnerability.
Focusing on Self-Growth and Happiness (00:20:03) She emphasizes the importance of self-responsibility for happiness and her journey toward personal growth.
Encouragement to Seek Healthy Relationships (00:22:17) She encourages listeners to evaluate their relationships and seek environments where they feel heard and valued.
Breaking the Cycle for Herself and Her Kids (00:23:28) Reena discusses the importance of not modeling toxic relationships for her children and choosing a better path.
Conclusion and Invitation to Connect (00:24:33) She concludes with encouragement, an invitation for listeners to reach out, and a reminder to choose growth and alignment.
Powerful Quotes from the Episode
'Behind closed doors, a lot of things can be different.'
'I started to realize that I lost myself along the way.'
'I didn't want my kids to see this as love. I didn't want them to know that this is what love looks like, because it wasn't love.'
'I think what I was in love with was the potential of our relationship. It wasn't what we actually had.'
'What I knew in that moment when I decided I didn't want to stay together for the kids is that the version of me outside of our relationship would be what I would want for them to see and model.'
'For me, I never felt like I was heard or seen.'
'I think I would rather be by myself than in a relationship that's not working right now.'
'I knew that what I had with him, he was not available for what I needed for the growth I had already done.'
'I was not afraid to do this by myself because really, I was already doing it by myself in so many ways.'
'I knew that what I could give them, the version of me outside of my marriage, was going to be better than what I could provide for them within it.'
'Life's too short to settle, to be complacent. You know that there's something more out there for you.'
RESOURCES:
Where to find me: lunawellnessllc.com
FB/IG: @reenasifer
email: lunawellnessllc@gmail.com
Get Your Free Human Design Chart: lunawellnessllc.com/human-design
Work with me: https://calendly.com/lunawellnessllc/workwithme
FOLLOW THE PODCAST: Practically Spiritual on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
"Choosing myself was the most loving choice I could make."
Podcast Produced and edited by the team at ResilientVoiceMedia.com
Contact us for expert podcast production and support.
