The Power of WORDS
In this live-streamed conversation, Chris sits down with author and coach Matt Hallock to explore the deep connection between marriage, identity, and leadership. With real-life stories, and practical wisdom, this episode unpacks why a healthy home life directly influences how well you lead at work—and why your words might be shaping more than you realize.
DNA of a Man by Matt Hallock: https://a.co/d/3IGPKoE
"People become what you say they are—whether you speak it out loud or just think it." – Matt
"When God puts you in a leadership position, it's time to lead—with purpose and with authority." – Chris
"Serving your spouse—or your team—only works when it flows from knowing your worth." – Matt
"Before you hammer performance, ask what's really going on behind the scenes." – Chris
Matt explains how treating people according to their God-given identity—not their performance—creates transformation in marriage and at work.
Words act as seeds that grow into either problems or breakthroughs.
People rise or fall based on the identity you speak over them.
Key insight:
If you address someone's performance without honoring their identity, you'll never get their best.
The conversation unpacks Ephesians 5 and the idea that Christ transforms through the WORD —active, spoken truth.
In marriage, labeling your spouse by their shortcomings reinforces those patterns.
In leadership, calling out the potential in someone invites them to rise.
Key insight:
Words create the atmosphere people live in.
Matt highlights a crucial distinction between serving from strength and serving from insecurity.
True service flows from knowing your worth—just like Jesus serving after knowing "all authority had been given to Him."
Serving without identity leads to resentment and being taken advantage of.
Key insight:
Your service is only powerful when it comes from confidence, not compensation.
Chris opens up about struggling to serve at home while serving easily at work—and Matt explains why this is common:
There's more history, more emotion, and more potential for pain at home.
Work relationships don't expose your identity wounds the way marriage does.
Key insight:
Marriage requires a different level of maturity because the stakes are higher and the roots run deeper.
Matt's practical advice:
It starts with a decision—not a hack or technique.
After that decision, rhythms, boundaries, and practices can grow.
But nothing changes until you choose to prioritize your marriage on purpose.
Key insight:
There's no system that replaces a decision.
Whether you're leading a family, a business, a ministry, or a team, your leadership will always reflect what's happening at home. This episode challenges leaders to examine their words, intentions, and identity—and shows why learning to love well makes you a better leader everywhere else.
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