In Part 1, we explored why continuing bonds matter and what the research says. Now in Part 2, Dr. Mari Marquez, PhD gets practical — walking you through when your heart naturally reaches for your loved one, and where you can intentionally create space for that connection.
This episode is part of the Growth After Loss Podcast, hosted by Dr. Mari Marquez — personal growth educator and researcher.
What You'll Learn:
What adaptive continuing bonds look like in real life
The difference between adaptive and maladaptive bonds
Three windows when your heart naturally reaches for your loved one:
Anticipatory windows — the days or weeks before significant dates
Resource windows — moments of stress when you seek your loved one's guidance Joy trigger windows — happy milestones that bring both joy and grief
How to create internal sanctuaries (portable, private dialogue) and external anchors (a memory chair, jewelry, a garden)
How to build a digital sanctuary so you engage with memories on your own terms
Why integrating loss — not avoiding it — supports emotional regulation and personal growth How to use your loved one's values to guide decisions today
Also Mentioned: Dr. Mari's new 90-day workbook Gentle Steps for Growing Around Grief releases May 1st on Amazon — a research-grounded guide for tending to your heart and integrating loss into the fabric of your life. Get your copy 👇🏼 on May 1st. https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarimarquez
Coming Up in Part 3: Specific rituals and tools to incorporate adaptive continuing bonds into your daily life. This content is educational and supportive in nature. It is not therapy, clinical advice, or a substitute for professional mental health support. If you are navigating grief and need additional support, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health professional.
Connect with Dr. Mari Marquez, PhD:
Website: drmarimarquez.com
Workshops: growthafterloss.com
Instagram: @drmarimarquez
