In this powerful episode, Chelsey sits down with renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Ross Rosenberg to completely reframe what we think we know about codependency — and why the label itself may be doing more harm than good for narcissistic abuse survivors.

Ross introduces his groundbreaking concept of Self Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) — the deeper truth beneath codependency — and explains why calling yourself "codependent" could actually keep you stuck in toxic relationships longer.

Key Takeaways:

• Why the traditional definition of codependency is outdated and harmful to abuse survivors
• What Self Love Deficit Disorder really is — and how to know if you have it
• The 3 codependent personality types: passive, active, and anorexic codependency
• The "broken picker" — why you unconsciously keep attracting narcissists
• "Am I the narcissist?" — how to tell the difference between SLDD and NPD
• Why traditional therapy often fails codependents and what actually works

Whether you're recovering from a narcissistic relationship, questioning your own patterns, or stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, this episode is for you.

ABOUT ROSS

Ross Rosenberg is a psychotherapist, clinician, and bestselling author with over three decades of experience, beginning his career in 1988. He is the creator of the groundbreaking concept of Self Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) — a reframing of codependency that places self-love, core shame, and pathological loneliness at the center of understanding toxic relationship patterns. Ross is the author of The Codependency Revolution and the founder of Self Love Recovery, where he helps individuals break free from narcissistic relationships and build lasting self-worth. He can be found at selfloverecovery.com

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