Does a woman earning more than a man in a relationship make you feel some type of way?
In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley jump right into The Guardian's article, "Single women are buying more houses. The men they are dating are not responding well," and talk about what happens when women are no longer forced into needing men for financial security, and why some men are responding to that reality very, very badly.
Along the way, Harris and Liz explore the ways in which men are really struggling right now (and why women aren't the problem), how capitalism makes everything worse, and what it would actually take to become the kind of man who can celebrate his partner's success as he would his own.
Stay tuned for:
A much-needed deconstruction of the Man Box™
How Fight Club predicted the manosphere
Why you're not competing with other daters; you're competing with Dungeon Crawler Carl
A deep dive into the 1988 Tom Cruise movie, Cocktail
It doesn't matter whether you're buying a house, dating someone who owns one, or just happy you got the rent paid last month; we've got the research, the psychological insight, obscure movie references, and the relationship advice you need.
And when you're done listening, check out this article on the Man Box and how to deconstruct harmful or limiting beliefs on masculinity: https://www.nextgenmen.ca/blog/deconstructing-the-man-box
Time Stamps
00:00 - Welcome and introductions
00:47 - The Guardian: "Single women are buying more houses"
01:49 - Do men actually want independent women?
05:45 - How Fight Club prophesied the manosphere
07:28 - Why social change is always met with backlash
10:43 - The conservative shift of Gen Z men
14:47 - Are men falling behind, or are women just finally allowed to catch up?
16:28 - Capitalism is the problem
19:27 - Privilege and the ability to handle setbacks
23:49 - The divide between what men think women want vs what they actually want
24:41 - Bay Area real estate
29:22 - The lie of "I love independent women"
30:40 - Are your circumstances unattractive or your attitude toward your circumstances
37:25 - What is the modern paradigm of straight relationships?
39:28 - If being treated like a woman feels bad, what does that say?
41:12 - Research on breanwinner anxiety and men's stress
44:42 - Men do have problems they need to solve
47:42 - The "Man Box"
51:00 - The unending concern of men getting less "manly"
55:02 - The 4B movement
57:51 - Online dating sucks now
01:00:45 - Being wanted vs being needed
01:02:33 - Tradwives and sacrificing autonomy
01:05:37 - The power dynamic of moving into someone's established space
01:08:54 - It's okay to live separately
01:13:55 - You're not competing with other men, you're competing with Dungeon Crawler Carl
01:14:40 - Read more, go to therapy
01:15:23 - Where to find Dr. Liz and Harris
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