More and more women are getting diagnosed with ADHD later in life, often after becoming parents, and it’s not because ADHD is “trending.” It’s because we’ve missed it for decades.
In this conversation, I talk with psychiatrist and author Dr. Sasha Hamdani about why ADHD in girls and women often goes unnoticed, how hormones and motherhood reveal hidden symptoms, and why self-understanding can be so freeing. We discuss stigma, emotional regulation, anxiety, and how parenting can bring clarity to our own neurodiversity.
If you’ve ever wondered why things got harder after kids, or why your child’s diagnosis suddenly made your own life make more sense, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.
We discuss:
Why ADHD in girls and women often gets overlooked
How hormonal shifts during puberty, postpartum, and perimenopause can unmask ADHD
The difference between anxiety-driven distraction and true ADHD
How parenting adds new executive function challenges that make symptoms more visible
The role of emotional regulation in ADHD—and why it’s missing from the diagnostic criteria
How a late diagnosis can change the way you see yourself and parent your kids
To connect with Dr. Sasha Hamdani follow her on Instagram @thepsychdoctormd and
check out all her resources at https://www.drhamdanimd.com/.
00:00 - Intro
01:55 - Meet Dr. Sasha Hamdani: psychiatrist, ADHD specialist, and creator
04:00 - Rediscovering ADHD during medical school
06:00 - From burnout to advocacy: how social media changed her work
06:45 - Getting diagnosed as an adult woman and the emotions that followed
10:30 - How ADHD was misunderstood in the 90s—and still is for many girls
12:00 - Why diagnoses often appear after motherhood and hormonal shifts
16:30 - Parenting stress, executive function overload, and ADHD symptoms
18:20 - How girls are taught to mask and why that delays diagnosis
22:00 - ADHD, anxiety, and the “chicken or egg” challenge
27:00 - How self-understanding reshapes parenting and connection
35:15 - Why “superpower” isn’t the right framing—but awareness is powerful
41:20 - The missing piece: emotional regulation in ADHD and Sasha’s upcoming book
47:16 - Dr. Mona’s reflections on self-awareness, parenting, and compassion
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