An interview with Shira Myrow, LMFT about how therapists carry a mental load for their clients, in addition to the load they carry as entrepreneurs and people. Curt and Katie talk with Shira about how to identify (and intervene) when therapists uncover this dangerous burden.
It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. We are human beings who can now present ourselves as whole people, with authenticity, purpose, and connection. Especially now, when therapists must develop a personal brand to market their practices.
To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.
Interview with Shira Myrow, LMFT
Shira Myrow is a licensed marriage and family therapist, mindfulness educator and founder of the mindfulness based Yale St. Therapy Group based in Santa Monica where she works in private practice. Shira specializes in relationship intelligence—treating couples and marriages with a focus on rebuilding attunement, improving attachment, and creating emotional literacy. Shira also works with individuals in transition looking for love, in break up recovery or going through divorce. Shira has a special focus on treating adult children of severely mentally ill parents with attachment injuries, including parents with borderline personality disorder, bi-polar and schizophrenia. Shira is also a writer and a regular contributor for Goop online magazine.
You can learn more about Shira and contact her here:
Website www.shiramyrowtherapy.com/
Email: therapy.smyrow@gmail.com
Instagram: @shiramyrowlmft, @yalesstreettherapy
In this episode we talk about:
The definition of Mental Load, with some of the history of the concept
Curt’s admission that Katie is carrying the mental load of this business relationship
Invisible emotional labor of managing daily lives and relationships
The invisible emotional load that therapists carry for clients and how that might be leading to less respect from other medical professionals
How the mental load from work can negatively impact personal life
The importance of intentional disconnection from the work when going home.
How the mental load can stay in your body, even when you mentally or emotionally disconnect from the work
How mindfulness can help address this challenge
The danger of privileging productivity above all else
The idea of how to incorporate this knowledge into therapist training
The complexity of business ownership, modern life, the connectedness afforded by technology
The onslaught of information that we get as individuals in the world AND as therapists
Attunement and presence in session, with self-regulation, so you can do the work without feeling cold and disconnected
Allowing versus suppressing emotions – so you can observe and have emotions pass
Tips for identifying when the mental load is having an impact, how to prevent or respond
The negative impact of stress on our bodies
How society has acclimated to unhealthy levels of stress and technology
The unreasonable expectations that come from being plugged in
Losing empathy and connection
The human struggle to incorporate mindfulness
Economy of effort
“Life shouldn’t be reduced to a to do list” - Shira Myrow
