A 30-second, playful moment sparked this episode - and a reminder: love isn’t generic. We break down how to speak love so it lands without abandoning yourself, especially when partners differ.
What you’ll learn (10 takeaways):
Love isn’t generic - different emotional blueprints
How to avoid the “I’m giving everything, it’s still not enough” trap
Building emotional safety so defenses drop
Reducing resentment & energy burnout
Deepening intimacy beyond the physical
Faster conflict repair by making the nervous system feel safe
Future-proofing with regular “What makes you feel most loved?” check-ins
Co-regulation: why the right love calms insecure attachment
Turning micro-moments into daily bonding rituals
Why guessing breaks trust (love is a skill)
Try this today: Ask your partner, “What lands for you this week?” Then do one unexpected gesture in their way of receiving love (a short note, a quick chore, five phone-free minutes together, a gentle touch, a tiny gift).
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