On this episode guest host Bob Conlin presents another of his relationship episodes, this time he has a guest, Rubria Mendoza, for the second of a two-part episode on cultural relationships. For example, how an intercultural relationship can impact our children.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
In our family, coming from different backgrounds and cultures, it’s been interesting the way we’ve raised our children. It’s taken a lot of communication, tons of patience for my husband and I. We had a little bit of an advantage in that before we had our kids we spoke a lot about when we had kids and we said we’d have an agreement and that we’d stick to it. It’s really helped us.
Now that we have our kids – two girls aged 6 and 8 – how do we raise them? It was interesting in the first years, coming from different cultures and especially the experiences I had as a kid in Mexico, I’ve passed things on to them that my American husband doesn’t understand and vice versa. For example, we don’t talk to kids about certain things till they get to a certain age, but in the US they do. My husband was explaining how a car works in technical detail and I wondered why he was overwhelming her with information, but he says they need to be engaged and pushed, but I said ‘no’, they shouldn’t be pushed, they are kids and don’t need to be pushed like that yet.
Having children has definitely expanded my husband’s and my opportunities to learn from each other. Our communication has improved because we have two little ones that are following us and we have different cultures to be proud of.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We agreed 12 years ago that one thing we’d do is to let our kids fail to help them learn. We’d be there to make sure they’d always have a safe spot here with us to come back to and show that failing is part of life and how they can get strong from that.’
‘There’s a way that I was brought up that I think is correct, but there is a different way that works too, and it’s fine.’
‘We both wanted our kids to be raised to have both languages, English and Spanish. We’re fortunate that at school they combine the 64 languages from all the backgrounds of the children studying there. Now they want to learn all the languages and about the cultures, which is expanding their knowledge and empathy, which we encourage.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
World Game-Changers Group
ABOUT THE GUESTS
Bob is a Life, Love and Leadership champion, author, coach, trainer, husband, father, and a professional certified coach with the International Coach Federation.
His philosophy is that we are in relationship to everything and the top three opportunities for growth exist in self, loving others, and career. As a relationship coach, he’s doing the work that he was meant to do, in order to fulfil his life purpose.
As the author of the forthcoming book ‘Why Your Relationships Suck: How to Create Strong Relationships with Courage and Heart’ – and as a devoted student of the relationship development he preaches – Bob enjoys a rewarding and fuller life being a husband, coach, leader, musician, and traveller. He and his family were featured in Episode 3 of CBS’s “The Greatest #AtHome Videos” in August 2020.
Website: www.conlincoaching.com
Rubria is based in St. Louis, MO, where she lives with her family. She has over 20 years of experience in a variety of areas such as accounting, organising events and expos, and process management. The variety of industries she has been involved in, has given her the opportunity to learn that one of the most valuable resources we all have is each other.
She believes in the power of teamwork and that in order to accomplish that, people have to form partnerships with the ones we interact in our day-to-day activities. To build strong circles, that then become strong communities. She likes to put that idea into action whenever she has the opportunity to contribute, helping friends, family, co-workers to expand their potential, and achieve common and personal goals.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rubria.mendoza
ABOUT THE HOST
Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.
From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.
Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:
Contributing Significantly To World Peace…
He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.
This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring. He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.
Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.
CONTACT METHODS
Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155
E-mail: Paul@Paul-Lowe.com
Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com
Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-d-lowe-7a78332a/
