ONE KEY WAY TO GAIN NEW INSIGHTS IS BY EMBRACING OUR HEARTS
Paul Lowe and Bill Burridge have had very contrasting lives and in this episode, they discuss their diverse journeys and how they have become purpose-driven, and committed to a life of serving others.
This fascinating podcast demonstrates how the Six Human Needs have been met in very different ways. Both Paul and Bill have now achieved balance and found their individual purpose, listen-in now to hear more about their very different life experiences.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
We are all governed by six needs, irrespective of where we come from, who we are and who we think we are. There are four basic, core needs and two higher-level spiritual needs
The four basic ones are required to be in place, before you can achieve the two higher ones.
Behaviours
These are the actions that you take to get your needs met
The behaviours are categorised into classes, dependent on whether the behaviour is pleasurable or not pleasurable (painful)
Class 1 behaviour is pleasurable and constructive; something you enjoy doing and is good for you, others or the world
Class 2 doesn’t feel so great at the time but is good for you, others and the world
Class 3 are destructive behaviours that are not good for us, others or the world at large, but can be pleasurable
Class 4 are behaviours that are not good for us, others or the world at large and are not pleasurable; they are painful behaviours.
Balancing Human Needs
Certainty (being sure and certain) and Variety (difference, excitement)
Significance (feeling special) and Love & Connection (with other people)
The higher-level needs are personal Growth and Contribution...
Certainty
Bill - I had uncertainty at the beginning with lots of change and because of this, sought certainty as an adult
Paul – My world from an early age was dominated by violence, cruelty and abuse; this was my certainty and alcohol became my crutch
Variety
Bill – I’ve experienced a life that has had a great deal of variety. I've worked for one company for an extended time which met my need for certainty; but have worked in different positions which have provided the variety
Paul - My variety was met through alcohol, I developed an alter-ego when I was drinking that was brave. Inside though, I felt so vulnerable and insecure; I kept people at a distance, because I couldn’t cope emotionally
Significance
Bill – Like lots of people in corporate life, I sought significance through trying to move higher in the management structure and gain more control
Paul – In my 'white phases' of life, my significance was fuelled by my charity work; in my black phases, it was fuelled by the alcohol
Love & Connection
Bill – I was brought up in an atmosphere of love where I felt very connected with my family and had a particularly special connection with my father
Paul – my experience was very polarised; my love was for my mother and womankind, I recognised the strength of women, emotionally
Higher level – Growth
We all grow and develop through the experiences and the events we go through
We both have a clear understanding of what we are here to do; our growth is conscious.
Higher level – Contribution
Paul – My contribution is to serve. Once you find your purpose in life, the world becomes an amazing place
Bill – My purpose is to inspire others to be better. Now I can actively pursue my purpose I’m much more focused, it is much more fulfilling to be giving back
When you find your purpose, it will change your life forever. It’s about giving back, about contributing to our planets expansion everybody has a part to play.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We are reacting to the world around us’
‘My needs have become the tail on the metaphorical dog’
‘This is my story, I own it, I believe in it and I commit to it’
‘People who are control freaks have a high need for certainty’
‘Most of us just go about meeting our needs doing what we do, just to survive’
‘You have taken massive learning from your experience to help you grow and develop’
‘You’ll never destroy me because I am so much stronger than you’
‘Almost like a kamikaze pilot mentality’
‘Life is a simple game, a question of choices and fear versus love’
‘Over the years I’ve been able to detach from things and view life from a higher level’
‘For some people, their purpose is deeply buried’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Speaking-our-Hearts-Mastering-game/dp/1781332819
https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/mastering-life/id1421271122?mt=2
https://omny.fm/shows/mastering-life/010-new-insights-into-lifes-purpose-with-bill-burr
Something that’s never been attached to Paul is the label ‘normal’ – for which he is immensely proud. He definitely subscribes to being one of those mentioned – in the Steve Jobs quote:
“Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
Paul Lowe is the founder of PaulLoweHEARTS – which has a three-fold purpose.
Firstly, to help you make the transition from pain to purpose; secondly, to get your inspirational messages and stories out into the world and thirdly, to support charitable organisations in their development & fund-raising.
We achieve this by:
Delivering our empowering Mindset For Success programmes
Sharing your true-life inspirational messages and stories through our Mastering Life Podcast and our Speaking From Our HEARTS book series
Utilising our significant charitable knowledge and experience.
Find Your Purpose – Make A Difference
Paul is totally committed to his HEARTS brand vision (an acronym) of:
‘Helping Everyone Achieve Results Towards Success’.
He has a long and distinguished track-record of raising significant funds for a multitude of good causes; positively changing the lives of many disadvantaged children within the UK and globally – drawing on his colourful and wide-ranging life’s experiences to help others do the same and achieve success in the game of life.
“Remember! Mastering Life Starts, By Speaking From Our HEARTS”
CONTACT METHOD
paul@paul-lowe.org
http://www.paullowehearts.com/
https://www.facebook.com/PaulLoweHEARTS/
https://twitter.com/PaulLoweHEARTS
https://www.instagram.com/paullowehearts/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqmznF8VCcZKEdSfE7VlwUA
ABOUT THE GUEST
New Insights Into Life’s Purpose: Bill Burridge
Bill Burridge owns and runs New Insights, a life coach training organisation with companies and operations in both the UK and South Africa. He lives in Cape Town with his wife and daughter; whilst his son is now working in London.
CONTACT METHOD
https://www.life-coach-training-uk.com/
https://www.life-coach-training-sa.com/
