In this episode, Ted and Patrick explore the important topic of male anger and masculinity. Feeling angry is completely normal—and it can actually be useful.
Anger isn’t just something to fear or bottle up. It’s a powerful signal that something needs your attention. But many men struggle to express it in healthy ways, which can lead to either shutting it down or letting it explode in damaging ways.
Ted and Patrick break down the anger cycle, explain why many hide their anger behind other feelings, and share practical, constructive tips to help you manage anger without losing control or hurting the people around you.
If you want to understand your anger and learn how to work with it, this episode is for you.
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Timestamps-
00:00 Intro
00:29 Growing Up with Anger
02:15 The Two Types of Anger: Feeling It Too Much or None at All
02:40 Ted Reflects on His Own Anger and Emotional Growth
03:20 Realising You Don’t Have to Bottle Emotions Up
04:00 How Fatherhood Changed Ted’s View on Anger
04:33 Anger is Normal and Healthy Emotion
05:10 The Problem Isn’t Anger, It’s Control
06:10 Men Report More Anger—But Seek Less Help
06:27 Verbal Aggression Isn’t Just a Male Thing
06:40 Uncontrolled Anger Peaks in Young Adulthood
07:30 The Long-Term Cost of Persistent Anger
08:44 Self-immolation as expression
09:30 Would You Rather Be Right or Influential?
11:15 Anger into Influence: Ted's Practical Walkthrough
14:14 Breaking Down The Anger Cycle
17:22 Reclaiming Power by Choosing Not to React
18:30 The Fuel Behind the Fire: Understanding What Triggers You
20:20 Why Anger Can Feel Like Power and Addiction
23:00 When Anger Becomes a Weapon and a Source of Identity
24:58 Understanding Anger as a Normal Emotion
25:45 The Gender Dynamics of Anger
26:30 Processing Anger and Apologies
29:40 Unresolved Anger in Relationships
31:28 The Concept of Closure in Relationships
34:30 The Art of Setting Boundaries with People Who Don’t Change
37:13 The Dangers of Repressed Anger
39:00 Childhood Experiences Shape How Deal With Anger
40:22 Scared of Letting Anger Out
41:30 Conflict as a Path to Growth
43:00 Navigating Disagreements Constructively
44:40 Signs Repressing Anger
45:40 Accepting Emotions and Finding Balance
49:00 Constructive Concepts
1:02:33 Outro
