In this episode, Ted and Patrick unpack the blurry line between confidence and arrogance. They explore what it means to build real confidence—not just perform it—and how to root it in genuine self-worth. Drawing from their experiences as public voices in football commentary, they ask: How do you know when you’re veering into arrogance? What does it take to stay grounded while still backing yourself? From handling criticism to building inner systems for self-belief, this is a sharp, honest conversation about identity, feedback, and the work of becoming truly self-assured.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
01:43 Why Patrick and Ted’s Football Takes Get Called Arrogant
02:48 Defining Self-Worth, Confidence and Arrogance
04:13 Why Ted Responded to Arrogance Criticism: Cultural Clashes & Track Record Explained
09:28 Patrick Shares His Perspective on Being Labeled Arrogant
11:28 Ted’s Reply to Criticism — Featured in the TransferFlow Newsletter14:58 Abilities vs. Qualities: The Arrogance Line
16:00 What does it mean to be self-confident?
19:38 The Roots of Ted’s Self-Confidence
22:06 It’s Okay to Fail — Your Worth Isn’t Defined by One Outcome
24:30 Confidence grows from self-worth
27:00 Expertise vs. Overconfidence
29:35 We learn self-worth at school, but not how to explore it.
29:50 We all share the same journey of failure and growth.
30:18 How Patrick earned the right to claim more confidence31:50 Ted’s Advice on Confidence
35:20 Patrick’s Take: Internal Qualities and Self-Worth
38:38 Social Media: Where Toxicity Meets Opportunity
41:40 Low Self-Worth: Influences & Inner Voice
46:30 Two Paths After Arrogance: Denial or Growth
47:40 Ted on Dismissing Earned Praise and Compliments
52:39 Why Some People Struggle to Accept Compliments
55:00 Patrick’s Struggle With Praise and Self-Worth
56:40 How to Respond When Your Partner Rejects a Compliment57:30 Why Working on Your Self-Worth Matters
58:52 Patrick’s Thoughts on Being Called Arrogant
1:02:19 Ted on Constantly Growing His Expertise
1:04:34 Patrick on Saying ‘I Don’t Know’
1:07:20 Tips for Rebuilding Self-Talk and Setting Boundaries
1:16:55 Wrap-Up & Reflections
1:19:12 Outro
1:19:27 Broll
