How to Shed Your Anger and Ego While Simultaneously Improving Mindfulness, and Inching Closer Towards Elusive Inner Peace ft. Dr. Christian Conte Summary:
How often does your inner rage get the better of you? Do you end up screaming, and shouting, hurling F-bombs…and maybe even throwing and smashing things around?
Once in 3 months, once a month, or maybe even once a week?
It could be a work argument with a colleague or a client. Or a passionate war of words with your spouse. Whatever may be the case, 99% of the time, you will end up wishing fervently that you can press the “undo” button and handle things in a more collected manner.
On today’s show, we have with us renowned mental health specialist and anger management expert, Dr. Christian Conte who shares with us his distilled wisdom on processing difficult emotions, and shedding anger and ego while greatly improving your overall life balance and positivity.
Dr. Conte’s efforts in improving the mental wellness and inner peace of prison inmates will surely inspire you to be a better human being.
While, his “Labyrinth” and “Yield Therapy” anger management techniques will help you have meaningful, humble, and genuine conversations.
Watch this show if you want to get on the path to attaining inner peace!
Key Takeaways:
00:06 – Who is Dr. Christian Conte?
01:11 – How and why did Christian pivot towards psychology and mental health?
02:30 – Dr. Conte’s lofty, moon-shot goal
03:08 – Specifically, who are the people who are benefiting from Dr. Conte’s skillsets?
04:00 – How the grossly inadequate anger management groups inspired Dr. Conte to take a less-explored and incredibly difficult career path
06:30 – Is it too optimistic to expect prisoners to be psychologically free?
08:56 – Prone to boiling over and throwing F-bombs? Dr. Conte shares two awesome yet incredibly easy anger management techniques to help you out
12:03 – The hidden reason why most people refrain from showing compassion
14:59 – The “Labyrinth” technique for dealing with anger, unpleasant situations
17:46 – This Aesop’s fable inspires Dr. Conte to put in his very best, every day of his life
19:11 – The “Yield Therapy” technique that gets people to shed their “fight or flight” approach and have genuine and humble conversations
21:18 – How has his mentor, Dr. Kevin Elko impacted Dr. Conte?
25:32 – Helping inmates on death row move one step closer to inner peace and mental health
29:36 – How to create a ripple effect that takes us closer to attaining that elusive inner peace
33:36 – Here’s how you can deal with difficult emotions that make you squirm with discomfort
34:47 – The “Fool on the mountain” and an important life lesson
37:06 – The one thing that helps eradicate mental blockages
39:01 – Dr. Conte’s future goals
40:09 – How our egos keep us from resolving issues and having meaningful conversations
43:00 – Dr. Conte’s fitness routine
43:35 – How to avoid gym burnout, and remain committed to your fitness goals
45:38 – Avoid THIS to shed your mental struggles while simultaneously improving balance and positivity
47:16 – Teaching mindfulness to football players
50:14 – What advice would Dr. Conte give his sixteen-year-old self?
51:12 – What would be Dr. Conte’s last meal on earth?
51:22 – Dr. Conte’s favorite music band
52:43 – Connect with Dr. Conte…
Quotes:
“And he talked about Socrates and Plato and Aristotle. And then I remember him talking about Descartes. And I said, well, what happened all those years in between there? And I just remember that gap. And I thought, well, listen, there's not going to be a gap when I'm done”.
“But every emotion will have a beginning, a middle and end. So, no matter how angry you've ever been, eventually it's passed, no matter how sad, happy, whatever, it will pass”.
“If someone's doing something that's not mindful, look, they're in the labyrinth. And when you look at somebody and you realize that you can have compassion, and unbelief, feel sorry for them but recognize the reality that they're not seeing things in the same way that you're seeing things”.
“So, yield theory is an approach to communication that centers on meeting people where they are genuinely meeting people where they are getting around their fight or flight response, you know, that defensiveness and speak in ways that can actually be heard”.
“It's one of the reasons why I say that even in a prison if with somebody who's convicted to a life sentence, that's never getting out of prison, I would still give them everything in terms of helping them find a path to peace because they carry energy, they carry impact, and they can impact the entire system”.
“If you fill your mind with violent music, violent video games, violent movies, and you're gonna have violence in your mind, whatever you put in your mind is going to be in your mind. And each and every person there, they got it in that”.
Resources:
Dr. Christian Conte’s Website
Dr. Christian Conte’s Facebook
Dr. Christian Conte’s Twitter
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