Success in tech doesn’t fail people—definitions of success do.
In this episode, leadership and career coach Aylam Hoffstein shares how global living, personal loss, and fatherhood reshaped his approach to helping tech leaders find both fulfillment and performance. Having lived in ten cities across four countries, Aylam brings a perspective that resists rigid frameworks in favor of adaptable mindsets rooted in lived experience.
Aylam walks through his path from military service and personal development into tech sales leadership, where he built and scaled teams while staying deeply focused on empowering people. During COVID, he and his wife relocated to Canada to support his terminally ill mother—a moment that forced a deeper reckoning with ambition, time, and what truly matters.
The foundation of his work, Kintsugi Tech Coaching, is inspired by the Japanese art of repairing broken ceramics with gold. Aylam uses this philosophy to help leaders navigate transitions—promotions, relocations, burnout, or identity shifts—by integrating challenges rather than hiding them.
The conversation includes a practical coaching case where a senior leader overcame fear of promotion, excessive hours, and over-responsibility by building confidence, simplifying decision-making, and delegating effectively. Aylam also reflects on how becoming a father reinforced his belief that sustainable success is a marathon, not a sprint.
This episode is a thoughtful exploration of leadership, grief, growth, and redefining success without sacrificing life.
